Ha, ha. When I first signed up for jazzfanz, before the big crash and rebirth, I only posted occasionally but everytime I posted one particular user would always follow with really nice compliments. It was weird, and I couldn't figure out why he was typical jazzfanz salty elsewhere but very nice replying to my posts.
Then one day I posted something controversial, several posters blew me up, but my "friend" blasted them back. Finally in exasperation my "friend" told the other posters to lay off because the forum needed more women posters and for a woman Mellow was really well informed.
Some of the other posters asked how he knew mellow was female, and he pointed out some obscure page in the user profile. Then there were several apologies, welcome to the board and someone even asked if I had friends to invite to jazzfanz.
I didn't see all those posts until I logged back on hours later. Wtf! I had to dig through my profile settings to find a male / female button that I never recalled seeing when I registered, then went to the thread to set things straight. It was awkward for a while with my "friend". I went on hiatus from the board for a while after that and thankfully I don't remember who the poor chap was.
After reading your post today I went looking in the profile settings for a gender listing, but couldn't find it. Either Jason took it out or it is still buried where it is not easy to find.