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fishonjazz said:
You are missing out bro.
Probably my favorite nap is in the mountains in my pop up trailer with all the windows rolled down and nice breeze coming through while I can hear the nearby river and bird songs.
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I would if I could. Not braggin about it or anything, I just can't fall asleep outside my normal sleep cycle. My circadian rhythms are like etched in stone. I deviate from my normal sleep patterns and kind of like Dr. Jones said, I pretty much feel like dog **** and it can last for days.

I've worked nights on and off for the last 10 years and I've tried a lot of different strategies but eventually I just had to stay on a night schedule all the time, including my days off. If I switch it up I'm just about the biggest jack *** you've ever met. I just feel miserable and angry all the time. It sucks working 12hr night shifts and then spending my days off waking up at 4pm and being up through the night while my family sleeps, but I'm pretty sure I would be divorced if I hadn't just given in to staying on the same schedule.

But I don't work nights anymore and hopefully never again.
 
fishonjazz said:
You are missing out bro.
Probably my favorite nap is in the mountains in my pop up trailer with all the windows rolled down and nice breeze coming through while I can hear the nearby river and bird songs.
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That is probably my favorite thing in the world.
 
I gotta tell ya, parenting is awesome. We thankfully have a fun(ny), high energy, cute kid which certainly helps (I swear if I had a kid that cried all the time...) but man, it's awesome seeing her learn. I swear she's really smart. She just turned 1.5 and she can correctly point to Mickey, Minnie, Goofy, Pluto, Donald, Daisy, Toodles, and others on the first try on the puzzles we have that she puts together in seconds. Animals too. Doggy, kitty cat, goldfish, horsey, cow, she knows em. Of course, she can only utter a few freakin' words but she's getting there and it's fun as hell.
 
Cunning Linguist said:
I gotta tell ya, parenting is awesome. We thankfully have a fun(ny), high energy, cute kid which certainly helps (I swear if I had a kid that cried all the time...) but man, it's awesome seeing her learn. I swear she's really smart. She just turned 1.5 and she can correctly point to Mickey, Minnie, Goofy, Pluto, Donald, Daisy, Toodles, and others on the first try on the puzzles we have that she puts together in seconds. Animals too. Doggy, kitty cat, goldfish, horsey, cow, she knows em. Of course, she can only utter a few freakin' words but she's getting there and it's fun as hell.
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It only gets better bro.
 
bigb said:
It only gets better bro.
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Until the part where your wife has an affair with your neighbor and then you learn that the legal system is completely in alignment to screw over fathers and as a result you find yourself alienated from the majority of the milestones that you used to love sharing, but at least you get to send alimony and child support to help maintain the household which you once treasured so much.

Oh wait... we're not supposed to give away that part, are we. Sorry for ruining the surprise.
 
That's why I'm soon to be self employed. I can pay myself as little as needed to be able to prove to a judge that I really don't make as much as my wife says.
 
bigb said:
That's why I'm soon to be self employed. I can pay myself as little as needed to be able to prove to a judge that I really don't make as much as my wife says.
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I am self employed too, and I could pull a trick like that, but unfortunately not only would my ex further poison my children with the information, but the only ones who would really be hurt are the people I care for most. And no matter what tricks I might try to play, the main point is that now I get to spend a fraction of the time I used to being involved in my children growing up. I've probably shared too much detail already and I will leave this discussion now, but believe me when I tell you that this is at epidemic proportions. I know lots of men who are going through situations similar to mine. Some of them might deserve it to some extent, but I strongly believe that a lot of them don't. Sadly, the ones who pay the biggest price are the kids. If I hear someone say that "Kids are resilient" one more time I'm going to puke. Kids are small and vulnerable people, and they do not like having their world ripped apart.
 
Joe Bagadonuts said:
I am self employed too, and I could pull a trick like that, but unfortunately not only would my ex further poison my children with the information, but the only ones who would really be hurt are the people I care for most. And no matter what tricks I might try to play, the main point is that now I get to spend a fraction of the time I used to being involved in my children growing up. I've probably shared too much detail already and I will leave this discussion now, but believe me when I tell you that this is at epidemic proportions. I know lots of men who are going through situations similar to mine. Some of them might deserve it to some extent, but I strongly believe that a lot of them don't. Sadly, the ones who pay the biggest price are the kids. If I hear someone say that "Kids are resilient" one more time I'm going to puke. Kids are small and vulnerable people, and they do not like having their world ripped apart.
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I honestly could not agree more with this post.
The laws in this state in particular are designed to royally screw the dad and benefit the mother, almost unconditionally. Fortunately, I'm not in a position to know firsthand, but I have witnessed it more than once.








Oh, and kids are resilient.
 
bigb said:
I honestly could not agree more with this post.
The laws in this state in particular are designed to royally screw the dad and benefit the mother, almost unconditionally. Fortunately, I'm not in a position to know firsthand, but I have witnessed it more than once.
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Thanks.


bigb said:
Oh, and kids are resilient.
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Oh great. You just made me puke. The truth is that kids adapt to the situation because they have no ****ing choice. They are forced into all sorts of terrible choices because the system that is supposedly set up to protect them more often accomplishes exactly the opposite.

I am currently working on the most important project of my life. It has to do with some amazing and innovative ideas to transform and update the institution of marriage. They are not my ideas, but I have become a big believer in them. I want my daughters to know about these things before they enter into a marriage under the current norms. Some people will probably decide that the old way is fine for them, and that's their choice, but eventually I'll bet a lot of people will be grateful for this amazing new alternative.

There is way too much to share here, but suffice it to say that currently divorce is sanctified by the legal system. Marriage is simply the raw material of the $20 billion a year divorce industry. Of course you cannot ask anyone to remain in an unhealthy marriage, but there are a lot of things that can be done about the way marriages work (including the actual marriage contract) that would result in happier, stronger and longer lasting families.
 
Joe Bagadonuts said:
Thanks.


Oh great. You just made me puke. The truth is that kids adapt to the situation because they have no ****ing choice. They are forced into all sorts of terrible choices because the system that is supposedly set up to protect them more often accomplishes exactly the opposite.

I am currently working on the most important project of my life. It has to do with some amazing and innovative ideas to transform and update the institution of marriage. They are not my ideas, but I have become a big believer in them. I want my daughters to know about these things before they enter into a marriage under the current norms. Some people will probably decide that the old way is fine for them, and that's their choice, but eventually I'll bet a lot of people will be grateful for this amazing new alternative.

There is way too much to share here, but suffice it to say that currently divorce is sanctified by the legal system. Marriage is simply the raw material of the $20 billion a year divorce industry. Of course you cannot ask anyone to remain in an unhealthy marriage, but there are a lot of things that can be done about the way marriages work (including the actual marriage contract) that would result in happier, stronger and longer lasting families.
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I'm interested
 
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