... I'll bet your perspective will change once you have kids.
Way to twist the scenario.
It's the PARENT'S reaction to the kid's choices that makes the parent selfish (or not), not the kid's choices themselves. But you knew that.
Quite possible. I don't think it would change me being upset and hurt, though.
It's not twisting, it's adding real situations. The kid makes the choice knowing full well what the reaction would be.
At what point in the child's life does he/she get to choose what is best for him/her? At what point in time do you simply accept that without any thought of what the effect on your life is? Why does it have to be God or you? Why can't it be both?...
Amen...not to get all religious here... ;-)
Unless you're talking about a scenario where your children have joined some sort of cult, or you're afraid they're being brainwashed to do material harm to themselves or others, I would hope you'd feel some sort of pride that you raised children who were capable of thinking for themselves and figuring out answers that work best for them. As an adult, you've reached certain "conclusions" or found your "answers" based upon your experiences in life - your children have not shared the identical experiences as you, so you shouldn't really expect them to reach the same conclusions you did.