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Question for Mormons

Mormons: Would you only marry if it was to another Mormon?

  • Yes

    Votes: 13 41.9%

  • No

    Votes: 18 58.1%
  • Total voters
    31
Mr. McGibblets said:
PKM's friends are not incorrect. Traditionally, anything went and it was between man and wife. Not after the sex-crazed 60s and 70s though.



Again in 1971 by Joseph Fielding Smith (Joseph F. Smith's son):



However, many Mormons are not aware of how involved the church has tried to be in people's bedrooms despite not traditionally having "official" policies against certain acts. Come on, was a church and a leader who was married to multiple women, and often without his wife's knowledge, going to be the arbitrar of sexual positions and acts? No.

But once the polygamy era ended the the raucous 1960s and 70s arrived things changed. Especially when the seemingly asexual Spencer W. Kimball finally had the final say on all things policy and doctrine. And I would guess that PKM's business partners are in their 40s-60s and were young married couples when their beloved prophet Spencer W. Kimball made statements like these:







Rumor has it that this letter led to a lot of Bishops inquiring about couple's marital acts. Three months later, the church released the following order:



Then in 1998 the handbook for leaders says this:



See https://www.i4m.com/think/sexuality/.

So you have a prophet saying no Oral, but there is no enforcement of it. So although you will never be asked if you have oral sex with your wife, there will undoubtedly be leaders and other members who believe it is an "unholy and impure practice." Additionally, there have been recent talks (I don't want to find the exact quotes) that talk about making sure you do not do things that are "disrespectful" or make your spouse "uncomfortable." I think we all have our own idea of what he's hinting at - at that is a problem. We all have our own ideas. A super conservative sheltered Mormon might think anything other than missionary is disrespectful or it makes them uncomfortable. While others have no such qualms.

Additionally, you are discounting the non-official cultural rules that are passed from a Bishop to newly married couples. Although Bishops are not supposed to inquire into a married couple's activities, they are still permitted to counsel couples about to get married concerning how they should act in the bedroom. I was told not to do anything that would make my wife uncomfortable. Fortunately, my wanky is small enough to fit places that my wife remains comfortable, but that's another matter entirely.


In any case, don't be surprised if you hear older people have opinions about oral sex being against our code while younger people would have no idea that it has ever officially been discussed.


PKM - Mormons vary wildly. I know of some downright freaks in the bedroom who are the biggest prudes socially. I'm sure you probably have met some like this too. This happens everywhere, including with members of the Mormon church.

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POLL QUESTION:

Myself - it was important to me when I got married and I would have not likely ever married a non-Mormon precisely due to the doctrinal reasons for it - achieving salvation/exaltation required a temple marriage (which required both to be church members). Now, I believe differently so it is not an issue at all. I am currently married, but if I divorced or my wife died then I would not care if I married a Mormon or non-Mormon. If they were Mormon though, I would only date less active Mormons or an ex-Mormon. Having a spouse that understands or is familiar with the culture would be nice, but I am not really active in the church and am agnostic in my beliefs so I could not be happy with someone super active or an orthodox believer.

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MORE FUN MORMON QUOTES ON SEX:









Hell, just go read this page if you want more: https://www.i4m.com/think/sexuality/mormon_oral_sex.htm
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this is post of year material.
Mormonism has been more and more intrusive and harder and harder on its youth since the 1960s... which just also happened to be the time that television and other things were brining Mormons into the mainstream of American material culture.
 
is the demographic in Utah heavily Mormon or just 50/50? I've lived in Ogden for quite sometime and I see the churches everywhere but somehow don't have a single Mormon friend.

They must avoid me or something
 
jope said:
is the demographic in Utah heavily Mormon or just 50/50? I've lived in Ogden for quite sometime and I see the churches everywhere but somehow don't have a single Mormon friend.

They must avoid me or something
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Salt Lake City proper hasn't been a Mormon majority for over a hundred years, but the suburbs have traditionally been extremely Mormon.
Ogden's railroad past assured a large contingency of non-Mormons, but it, too, has traditionally be very Mormon on the outskirts.

These percentages are changing (going down) at the same time that Mormons are becoming a little less hardcore.
 
Always a hoot over what non-LDS assume.

I know for sure you shouldn't watch porn together. That's bad. Neither side should feel like they are forced/pressured to do certain acts.

But I also think it's bad in those relationships where the sex life dies (religion or not).
 
NAOS said:
Salt Lake City proper hasn't been a Mormon majority for over a hundred years, but the suburbs have traditionally been extremely Mormon.
Ogden's railroad past assured a large contingency of non-Mormons, but it, too, has traditionally be very Mormon on the outskirts.

These percentages are changing (going down) at the same time that Mormons are becoming a little less hardcore.
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Missionaries a couple months ago told me it was 40%. Not sure if he meant Utah or the Ogden area, though.
 
Darkwing Duck said:
Missionaries a couple months ago told me it was 40%. Not sure if he meant Utah or the Ogden area, though.
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that number seems to be about right for the voting district that is "Salt Lake City" (approximately 183,000 people, if I'm not mistaken). There could be a similar percentage in some region of Ogden.
 
The greatest thing my wife ever told me was, "Hey, we're out of the area code... We're watching "No Boys Allowed"" Wendover is my new favorite home for this reason.
 
TroutBum said:
I have no idea what that is, but I like it already.
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I know probably about 10 LDS folk that claim they 'live right' about 90% of the time .. but when they get 50 miles from home, there's a different set of rules.

I have several friends in SLC that come to STG for mini-vacations because they're jonesin' for cool frosty brew.
 
Why would you want to? If you truly believe something is the truth then why marry someone, and hope to covert them?

The question that needs to take it a step further is would you marry someone knowing they would never convert.
I would assume that a lot people of strong faith think they can convince the other person to join them. Otherwise why risk being
with someone that doesn't believe in what is most important to you? Seems like a deal breaker.
 
Revolution 9 said:
Why would you want to? If you truly believe something is the truth then why marry someone, and hope to covert them?

The question that needs to take it a step further is would you marry someone knowing they would never convert.
I would assume that a lot people of strong faith think they can convince the other person to join them. Otherwise why risk being
with someone that doesn't believe in what is most important to you? Seems like a deal breaker.
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Marriage is already an intense articulation of desires and dreams. Why the **** would you want to make conversion a part of this? I honestly cannot imagine it. Sounds like Russian roulette
 
I can assure you it doesn't matter. While you're at church, you're little lady can just be ironing your next Sunday's clothes, doing some dishes, whipping up some lunch .. all in her assless lingerie. See? It works just fine.
 
PKM said:
I know probably about 10 LDS folk that claim they 'live right' about 90% of the time .. but when they get 50 miles from home, there's a different set of rules.

I have several friends in SLC that come to STG for mini-vacations because they're jonesin' for cool frosty brew.
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Sounds like the MO of every shady character the world over. That's basically what was admitted that the majority of the secret service felt like in that whole prostitution scandal recently. Out of sight, out of mind. The whole foreign services is known as one big cheater's ball really, especially when the spouse is back at a job in the states.
 
I would actually relish the idea of raising my kids in a duel-religion house. What better way to teach your kids tolerance, choice, and spiritualness? (not a word)
 
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