Infidelity

[One Brow]

If memory serves me correctly (and it usually doesn't), I think you mentioned that at one point in time you were, but not currently?

We were never swingers, which involves, at a minimum, both of us to be roughly together during the carnal activities. We did briefly have an open marriage.

 

[One Brow]

Can we contain the patriarchy talk to the other thread?

I don't know. Can we contain men complaining about how picked on they are to the other thread?

 

[Saint Cy of JFC]

My brother-in-law recently found out that his wife has been cheating on him. His wife is a nurse and apparently she's been seeing a doctor on the side for 4 years.

At this point my brother-in-law has decided not to seek a divorce - mainly because he has 3 children and they're all under 10 years old.

I have to question whether or not this is the right move, sometimes keeping a toxic marraige together is worse than a divorce.

How would you folks handle it? I know personally I'd divorce her, even if I was in his situation; but I can tell you he's not doing it out of weakness - he's a better man than me. Because of issues many years ago with his father, he was homeless for a short time in his early 20's and has gone from literally nothing to being an IT Executive for a major communications company.

It bears mentioning that she didn't confess to the affair. He accidentally found out from his sister in law - his wife didn't confess until he confronted her.

So your sister is cheating on him? His wife would be your sister, correct?

 

[orangello]

So your sister is cheating on him? His wife would be your sister, correct?

That is what I thought too but it turns out that it is his wife's brother's wife. I hope that makes sense.

 

[PearlWatson]

It's part of the price we pay for maintaining the patriarchy. Overall, men benefit to a much greater degree.

Being able to father their kids in their own home is priceless.

 

[bigb]

We were never swingers, which involves, at a minimum, both of us to be roughly together during the carnal activities. We did briefly have an open marriage.

Ah, I see. I guess there is a distinction there I hadn't considered.

 

[Saint Cy of JFC]

I would go around banging bitches then probably burn all of her clothes.

 

[nightmare3983]

I don't know. Can we contain men complaining about how picked on they are to the other thread?

Were men complaining about how they are picked on in the other thread?

 

[PearlWatson]

We were never swingers, which involves, at a minimum, both of us to be roughly together during the carnal activities. We did briefly have an open marriage.

That ain't a requirement in any of the 5 definitions in the urban dictionary.

 

[One Brow]

Were men complaining about how they are picked on in the other thread?

No, that was this thread. Hence, I responded in this thread, where the complaining happened.

 

[One Brow]

That ain't a requirement in any of the 5 definitions in the urban dictionary.

Well, perhaps my definition is out-of-date.

 

[Stoked]

Mine came home at midnight and all my **** was packed in my car. She asked what I was doing. I told her I was leaving her. When she asked why I said becasue my name wasn't Jared (guy she thought I didn't know about). She got really pale and quiet. I slept in my daughters room and was gone before she woke up.

 

[nightmare3983]

No, that was this thread. Hence, I responded in this thread, where the complaining happened.

Then you shouldn't have brought it into the other thread. All you did is get everyone off topic.

 

[nightmare3983]

Mine came home at midnight and all my **** was packed in my car. She asked what I was doing. I told her I was leaving her. When she asked why I said becasue my name wasn't Jared (guy she thought I didn't know about). She got really pale and quiet. I slept in my daughters room and was gone before she woke up.

It made me sad reading this. I'm sure it's not the easiest thing to talk about.

 

[Stoked]

It made me sad reading this. I'm sure it's not the easiest thing to talk about.

I've moved on for the most part. Still some days of frustration and anger but I'm mostly past it and with a wonderful woman now.

 

[nightmare3983]

I've moved on for the most part. Still some days of frustration and anger but I'm mostly past it and with a wonderful woman now.

That's good

 

[Stoked]

That's good

My sister's sister-in-law of all people.

 

[Beantown]

That's a curious implication to make.

But you're not denying it...

 

[Stoked]

But you're not denying it...

Been there done that.

 

[nightmare3983]

My sister's sister-in-law of all people.

It's interesting how things sometimes play out. Like Shania Twain now being married to the ex-husband of the woman who Shania's ex-husband cheated with.