Can you please elaborate on this? Why were you so put off by the "younger sister"?
Well I said similar. Actually I first met the younger sister and while she didn't show much interest dating wise, she loved hangin out with me or talking to me about personal and other matters. I tried to spark her interest into me and circumvent the friendzone situation, and eventually came close to succeeding in it. In the period of time that lead to us dating I also spent significant time getting to know her sister who as it turned out later had interest in me. But she first encouraged her sister to give me a shot. After she didn't want to get more intimate or develop a deeper connection with me, we slowed it down naturally. I guess I just wasn't her kind of guy somehow. Couple months later I exclusively stayed in touch with her older sister, as the younger tried to friendzone me but I cut off the contact. Just told her I won't give her relationship advice after being myself interested in her. So I moved on.
That's when her sister came front and told me straight up that she had a crush on me. I was like: Yeah that's awkward right now after me pursuing her sister and she playing a role in it. She was like: yeah she's my sister and I love her, so I supported her to give you a shot and that. But if she doesn't value you I go get it.
Naturally I liked her too, but thought that's way too weird to have a serious relationship with. I knew that would be long term, not just an affair. And that would be kinda weird running into my former crush too often. jealousy and competition inevitable.
So it was kinda the other way around. But that was my heart of gold vs youth situation. And I sensed earlier while pursuing the younger one, that I definately had a shot with the older one. So I probably made up my mind about the situation unconsciously.
And the latter one was a girl I presumed had the heart of gold + youth/(exotic) looks(she was nearly 4 years younger than I was, biggest age difference I experienced up to this point). Yeah kinda turned out the heart of gold turned into ice after half a year with me waiting it to shapeshift again with no success. So we naturally started to clash as I want to think I have a heart of gold and we both became increasingly unhappy with the situation with me trying to bring back the girl I initially got to know. But she refused to accept my love/kindness. Thus at some point I didn't want to continue suffering silently and stopped fighting too. I had always sympathy and empathy with her as she was a rape + social abuse victim in her youth by her step father and mother, who couldn't stand that she looked like her former husband who abandoned her.
Ye but these two experiences kinda caused me to value a heart of gold way more compared to looks/youth only. Cause they're going to age as well. And if it's a permanent connection, why risk to enjoy her company less for the majority of the time you spend together. Plus a happy/sympathic person almost always has a more positive aura that I sense and makes me feel more secure/comfortable after the first stage of love, when you try to get to know the other person as good as you can and get accustomed to her while everything is exciting is gone and you look for the small things. That's something which is increasingly important to me the longer I know a girl.
But the NBA cycles are more short term than life cycles.
