I think that's being totally overblown. Her tone was inappropriate, and yes I'd say that if she were male. In fact my daughter was in the room with me when I was watching that and my daughter asked why she was yelling.
Your daughter has been raised in a world where the values of the society have been predicated on the views and perspectives of white males (what other choice does she have?), and her ignorant acceptance of it speaks volumes to the systematic suppression of alternative thought. Ergo, her words to validate your own worldview are meaningless and borderline oppressive.
Or something like that.