Gyp Rosetti
Banned
Find out if this mistress has a hot sister or friend. Then, I'd blackmail him into letting me fornicate with the two chicas in a threesome.
Mistress? good or bad?
- Thread starter DutchJazzer
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It must be OK to kill and eat your children too, eh?
Because we can reason and comprehend consequences? I hate the "animals do it so it must be OK" crowd.
I am definitely opposed to cheating in my marriage. I feel as stated above that if you want to cheat or are cheating you should do the right thing and break up unless your spouse is okay with it.
Having said that I think a lot of people who judge people for cheating and say they never will are not in a situation to cheat. Meaning they have not had multiple attractive people pursue them. I have never cheated and don't see myself cheating but I have never had the kind of attention celebrities get like tiger woods so I cant say for sure what I would do in that situation.
I will say when I traveled for work a lot and was on my own more often the temptation greatly increased and I could see how people could falter in these situations.
Some people say you marry the person who you think is the best and most attractive person you can get.
Having said that I think a lot of people who judge people for cheating and say they never will are not in a situation to cheat. Meaning they have not had multiple attractive people pursue them. I have never cheated and don't see myself cheating but I have never had the kind of attention celebrities get like tiger woods so I cant say for sure what I would do in that situation.
I will say when I traveled for work a lot and was on my own more often the temptation greatly increased and I could see how people could falter in these situations.
Some people say you marry the person who you think is the best and most attractive person you can get.
Who said anything about it being "OK"? Lying to your spouse is about an affair is never OK.
*flings poo at One Brow*
*Screeches loudly at bordelais7*
DutchJazzer
Banned
yes and the day your married. there are more atractive people hitting on you.
a friend of mine sometimes wears a weddingring. he is not married.
saw him a couple of times with it. he got more "action" when wearing that wedding ring from my observation, then when he's not
You sat there and observed this? Strange.
Not really. Voyuerism is taking off.
DutchJazzer
Banned
well not the actual coitus. but the picking up hitting on part.
bad bad poster you got a nasty mind
DutchJazzer
Banned
or maybe they just want sex wihtout a commitmentt/ stalkerism.
married men probably wont continue a relationship. prob will be one night stand then done.
higher values
"A man's reach should exceed his grasp".
Wonderful truth my great aunt taught me, trying to encourage me to question everything and not just stick with the commonplace accepted norms. . . .
Trying to upgrade our values like personal honesty is on my list. Trying to upgrade my ethical behavior towards things that are actually beneficial in their impacts on others is right there with it. Lying to a spouse, or keeping any significant thing secret is going to result in reasonable distrust. Destructive of the hope for a good positive forward path.
Men are not monogamous, never will be. Religions in general should move back to the bronze age marriage schema. Women should re-direct all their social skills towards making sure none of their own is seriously abused or neglected, for sure. . . . and aim towards attaining general queenship status for all of their own.
"A man's reach should exceed his grasp".
Wonderful truth my great aunt taught me, trying to encourage me to question everything and not just stick with the commonplace accepted norms. . . .
Trying to upgrade our values like personal honesty is on my list. Trying to upgrade my ethical behavior towards things that are actually beneficial in their impacts on others is right there with it. Lying to a spouse, or keeping any significant thing secret is going to result in reasonable distrust. Destructive of the hope for a good positive forward path.
Men are not monogamous, never will be. Religions in general should move back to the bronze age marriage schema. Women should re-direct all their social skills towards making sure none of their own is seriously abused or neglected, for sure. . . . and aim towards attaining general queenship status for all of their own.
I said it was a common perception. Not the only one.
I was monogomous and had no probblem staying that way forever. I was content. So I disagree with your theory.
jazz_fanatic
Well-Known Member
Cheaters can die. And go to hell.
DutchJazzer
Banned
that can also be said for non cheaters.
Attraction is more than just physical. The physical is the obvious first step, to get the ball rolling. I will flatly acknowledge that my wife is not the best looking girl I ever dated. But she was the only one I would want to be married to. Looks alone get old fast. I dated one girl who was just plain hot, but after the third date, I couldn't take the conversations, or her lack of a decent sense of humor any longer. My friends thought I was an idiot for not sticking with it, but I probably would have ended up strangling her.
I also worked with a girl who was married to a guy much, much better looking than me. But she flirted like crazy. We had a lot of common interests, and she would always tell me that I was "intriguing", whatever that meant. She would call her husband "boring" on nearly a daily basis. I flirted back, a little, but never let it get to a point where I might be inviting a proposition. I wasn't married at the time, but she was. I don't know if she would have followed through, had I played along. Maybe I'm remembering it for more than it actually was, but in retrospect, it seemed like it would have been an easy score. Point is, I think she got bored with her husband, despite the fact that he was a better than average looking dude.
Gojazz79 is right, in that you should marry for love. If you want to keep your options open, don't get married. If you are married, and feel the need to stray, as difficult as it may be, you need to tell your spouse, and open the communication. Trying to salvage a marriage, or dissolve it, is easier (tactically) before someone cheats on the other.