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Question for Mormons

Mormons: Would you only marry if it was to another Mormon?

  • Yes

    Votes: 13 41.9%

  • No

    Votes: 18 58.1%
  • Total voters
    31
sgjazzfan said:
These are not all inclusive, nor are they in any particular order

1. Standards. I want a partner who has the same standards as me that can help me be an example to them. (not all LDS girls are this, and not all non LDS girls are this, but it is more common.)

2. I have a belief in what I live and want to teach my kids those same principles. I want a wife who helps me teach them this.

3. I believe that the only way to live with your family through eternity is through a temple marriage... I want that.

There are many other reasons as well but these are the main ones.
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When I was dating my wife, it was important to me that she be an active, believing LDS member, for many of these same reasons. I'd add to the list that common goals are vitally important to a marriage, and sharing a faith helps with that. I'd modify your reason number 3, though, which is that (as you likely also believe) temple sealings between husband and wife can occur after the initial marriage, even after death if need be.
 
AKMVP said:
I used to work with one Mormon girl for about 3 years. So here it is about her and her Mormon family ( only Mormon family I knew personally). Freaking hypocrites I must say - her all family was from Chile who were illegal immigrants to USA and somehow got legalized through Mormon church, they lived in Provo initially before moving where I live now. So, where to start, dad was child abuser ( used to beat the crap out of poor little three girls, forced them to eat until they puke and then forced to eat whatever they puked! ) - no wonder they all got ridiculously fat. Lately he came out of closet that he is gay, got separated and now lives with his partner in Bay area. Older sister was/is drug dealer/addict/thief, single mom who does not even know who her kids father is, got involved with police numerous times and I still can't believe she did not kill anybody while DUI numerous times or ended up in jail after shoplifting. Only normal person in that family was younger sister who to my knowledge did not do anything crazy as of yet. Mom is typical toxic parent/bully who always tried to influence mature daughters no matter what they were trying to do. Lol, she threatened to kill herself once if one of those sisters will marry foreigner and give up her USA citizenship. Middle sister who used to work with me was the real story - always was telling me that she can't drink hot drinks ( tea, coffee ) because of her religion, but had no problems drinking alcohol, smoking and partying every weekend. Recently got married but before that had no problem cheating on her fiance with girls ( yes she admitted that she was bisexual ) and even had threesome with random couple she met at the bar one night. Yet had no problem telling me at work how devoted Mormon she is and that she goes to church every Sunday. I knew she had mental health issues as she was always on antidepressants and tried to slice her veins few times so she might not be the best example but as I am telling you know all that family except youngest sister was freaking ridiculous.
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lol u dated teh fat bishes
 
colton said:
When I was dating my wife, it was important to me that she be an active, believing LDS member, for many of these same reasons. I'd add to the list that common goals are vitally important to a marriage, and sharing a faith helps with that. I'd modify your reason number 3, though, which is that (as you likely also believe) temple sealings between husband and wife can occur after the initial marriage, even after death if need be.
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I agree with everything you said. For me, I have felt that I should make that covenant now, maybe I wont get a second chance.
 
AKMVP said:
I used to work with one Mormon girl for about 3 years. So here it is about her and her Mormon family ( only Mormon family I knew personally). Freaking hypocrites I must say - her all family was from Chile who were illegal immigrants to USA and somehow got legalized through Mormon church, they lived in Provo initially before moving where I live now. So, where to start, dad was child abuser ( used to beat the crap out of poor little three girls, forced them to eat until they puke and then forced to eat whatever they puked! ) - no wonder they all got ridiculously fat. Lately he came out of closet that he is gay, got separated and now lives with his partner in Bay area. Older sister was/is drug dealer/addict/thief, single mom who does not even know who her kids father is, got involved with police numerous times and I still can't believe she did not kill anybody while DUI numerous times or ended up in jail after shoplifting. Only normal person in that family was younger sister who to my knowledge did not do anything crazy as of yet. Mom is typical toxic parent/bully who always tried to influence mature daughters no matter what they were trying to do. Lol, she threatened to kill herself once if one of those sisters will marry foreigner and give up her USA citizenship. Middle sister who used to work with me was the real story - always was telling me that she can't drink hot drinks ( tea, coffee ) because of her religion, but had no problems drinking alcohol, smoking and partying every weekend. Recently got married but before that had no problem cheating on her fiance with girls ( yes she admitted that she was bisexual ) and even had threesome with random couple she met at the bar one night. Yet had no problem telling me at work how devoted Mormon she is and that she goes to church every Sunday. I knew she had mental health issues as she was always on antidepressants and tried to slice her veins few times so she might not be the best example but as I am telling you know all that family except youngest sister was freaking ridiculous.
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Does it make you mad that she wouldn't marry you cause you're not mormon?
 
Ill rephrase the question, and replace "Mormons" with Muslims.


Its a question I would love to put off at this point in my life, as it is something that is extremely tough to answer. The Muslim community of Edmonton is typically clustered in terms of nationality, and unfortunately the Albanian Muslims are typically the least pious of these clusters (with obvious exceptions of course). As a result, I often distance myself from the Albanian community of Edmonton, and typically surround myself mostly with your run-of-the-mill normal kids that I go to college with, and what not (regardless of what faith they are). As a result, I have already been accustomed to have flings here and there with non-Muslim girls. Why? Gods, are the amount of attractive Muslim girls in Edmonton ever so goddamn low. But besides the obvious, I just haven't met a Muslim girl in my life yet that not only hold values that I respect, but is also an independent, intelligent thinker, with a good head on her shoulders, coupled with a great personality.



Quite frankly, I want my children to become Muslim, and to be raised with similar values that I find important. However, without a strong backing from a community, I find that this becomes hard to maintain. So, I find myself thinking that either I have to move with my family to a more Muslim community, or I'll continue to live more of a "Dalamon's interpretation of the Islamic faith" lifestyle, which is strict in some areas, more relaxed in others. At this point of my life, obviously the latter seems more important; however, things could obviously change.


Regardless, I seriously think that I would have great troubles with marrying a Christian girl, especially when kids get involved. ****, its just such a hard issue to think about. Religion makes me scratch my head more than any other subject, in all honesty.

But relationships: Well, the girl that I have liked the most in my entire life thus far was a super-Christian girl. An absolute angel, she is.
 
dalamon said:
Ill rephrase the question, and replace "Mormons" with Muslims.


Its a question I would love to put off at this point in my life, as it is something that is extremely tough to answer. The Muslim community of Edmonton is typically clustered in terms of nationality, and unfortunately the Albanian Muslims are typically the least pious of these clusters (with obvious exceptions of course). As a result, I often distance myself from the Albanian community of Edmonton, and typically surround myself mostly with your run-of-the-mill normal kids that I go to college with, and what not (regardless of what faith they are). As a result, I have already been accustomed to have flings here and there with non-Muslim girls. Why? Gods, are the amount of attractive Muslim girls in Edmonton ever so goddamn low. But besides the obvious, I just haven't met a Muslim girl in my life yet that not only hold values that I respect, but is also an independent, intelligent thinker, with a good head on her shoulders, coupled with a great personality.



Quite frankly, I want my children to become Muslim, and to be raised with similar values that I find important. However, without a strong backing from a community, I find that this becomes hard to maintain. So, I find myself thinking that either I have to move with my family to a more Muslim community, or I'll continue to live more of a "Dalamon's interpretation of the Islamic faith" lifestyle, which is strict in some areas, more relaxed in others. At this point of my life, obviously the latter seems more important; however, things could obviously change.


Regardless, I seriously think that I would have great troubles with marrying a Christian girl, especially when kids get involved. ****, its just such a hard issue to think about. Religion makes me scratch my head more than any other subject, in all honesty.

But relationships: Well, the girl that I have liked the most in my entire life thus far was a super-Christian girl. An absolute angel, she is.
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yeah, Christian girls don't fly with me either.

I don't want a raging atheist (although that would be preferable if I had just two options), but someone who is enchanted with THIS WORLD. It's a ****ing travesty how hard it is to find people like that.
 
Yeah, I think I'm more in GVC's and NAOS' camp here, so to speak. I was never baptized and am therefore no religion though I do find them sort of fascinating and have a strong respect for faith. That said, I love what NAOS said that GVC quoted. So true.
 
If you two are interested in getting wistful in the woods, I'll be up at the family house, mostly alone, for the next month or so.
 
Wes Mantooth said:
Yeah, I think I'm more in GVC's and NAOS' camp here, so to speak. I was never baptized and am therefore no religion though I do find them sort of fascinating and have a strong respect for faith. That said, I love what NAOS said that GVC quoted. So true.
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so to speak that said ha ha ha What a douche
 
This is a really interesting subject to me for various personal reasons.

Here is a little background on me. I grew up LDS. Both of my parents came from larger families (each had 9 kids). I grew up in a larger family (I am one of 9). I am the oldest in the family. I grew up devout LDS. I was not ashamed of it for any reason. I lived in SLC (read Magna and WVC), Utah County, Northern "Nazi" Idaho, Eastern Washington, Central Coast Oregon and Arizona. I had my fair share of the proving if I was LDS or not. Due to me being a ginger I was offered sex may time just because these girls had never been with a ginger before. I also had many other opportunities to get into drugs, alcohol and substances that are discouraged by the Word of Wisdom.

When I turned 19 it was time for me to go on a mission. I didn't go. That created a huge problem for me in my life. I had family members like a brother and cousins that did not want to spend time with me because of my choices. I had members of my ward that I heard talking about me as I walked through the halls at church. It was very difficult because as much as I love the church, the people in it can and usually are very judgmental. It took me some time before I decided that I did want to serve a mission. It wasn't for my parents, brothers, other family members or even for my ward, it was for me.

After getting back from my mission it was time to get married. Did I want to marry and LDS girl? Yes I did. I wanted someone with similar values and someone that agreed with some of my quirky point of view. I knew that was not going to be easy so I left the door open to fall in love with whatever type of girl suited my needs. I should add that growing up I did not always make the best decisions. I participated in some things that the church and its members frown on. I knew that because of those things finding and LDS girl that wanted to marry me would be difficult.

This story has gone on long enough so I will cut to the chase. I found the perfect girl for me. She wasn't judgmental and she has even taking a liking into sports which she had no interest in prior to us being married. We have 2 wonderful and beautiful kids and we were married in the temple. I honestly didn't think that it was going to be possible to marry and LDS girl. I didn't want the judgmental type that would always bring up m past transgressions. My wife knows everything about me and she still loves me. She puts up with all of my crap. I am lucky to have her. And, without giving out too much information, she is kinky. Oral, yes. Does she do more than that, yes, but I will not get into it.

Thanks for reading my incredibly long post. I hope that this clears some things up for some people. Now I must go so that I can prepare my lesson for the 12 turning 13 year olds.
 
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