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Were you spanked as a child?

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I was spanked a limited amount growing up. Mostly to get my attention when I was ignoring my parents. The worst I ever got was a hard kick to the behind from my father when I smart-mouthed my mother in front of him. That said, I never got what I would call a beating.

Regarding my kids, pretty much the same. Just a single quick swat to the butt when smarting off or ignoring my wife or I when telling them to straighten up. I can count on one hand the number of times all three combined have actually been swatted.
 
I was spanked some growing up. Not a lot.
I spank my kids when other forms of punishment aren't working. It's an escalation thing. After the time-out has happened (usually repeatedly) and the behavior continues. The other day I spanked my 4 year old when he slammed his bedroom door in my face after I put him in time-out.
It doesn't happen often, and my kids (just the older two, the younger ones don't get spanked yet) have figured out that a spanking means it's gone WAAAY too far.
 
I spank my kids. However soanking is not the answer to everything like some people seem to think when you say you spank your kids. Timeouts, grounding, spanking, lose of privilages, extra chores are all effective means od discipline. You have to tailor your response to what they did. Also I always talk to them first so they know why they are in trouble.
 
As I became a better parent (my youngest was born 11 years after my oldest), I needed to spank less, and the youngest two not at all.
 
Any bow hunters in here? You know those Easton aluminum arrows that you shoot at game? My old man bent one of those into a rainbow over my *** because I didn't go to bed when he told me to. That, as one small example, is how I grew up. My dad beat the living damn out of me. I vowed to NEVER do that to my kids, but as I get older I realize some of the benefits, and I do spank my kids. My kids get ample warning before the spanking, and it's usually a 'last straw' kind of a thing -- but if they do something like back-talk their mom, run into the road, or lie (oh man, I have no patience for that) they get no warning, and it's usually a good hard swat. (or two if I don't think they got the message)

I rarely have to give spanks for the same thing twice, which is why I'm a proponent.
 
Took a lot of beatings growing up from dad. Knocked me unconsious one time. He was brutal. I think he was in Nam but can't remember but wherever it was did a pretty good number on him not to mention two alcoholics for parents. He's got issues. Most all my siblings have broken the cycle except my brother. Anyway, I'm a fan of spanking but not beating. No place for that. And once the kid can reason somewhat there's not even a place for any spanking at all. And when you spank it should be more about the act versus any type of physical pain. Heck they're wearing diapers anyway and can't feel it. That's the philosophy at least not that I've always followed it.

But there is something to be said about the threat of violence. Like your kid says something and you just give him that look and he knows death is near. Few and far between but valuable. Some fathers couldn't pull that look off if their lives depended on it and some kids would laugh if they did anyway.
 
CONAN said:
Took a lot of beatings growing up from dad. Knocked me unconsious one time. He was brutal. I think he was in Nam but can't remember but wherever it was did a pretty good number on him not to mention two alcoholics for parents. He's got issues. Most all my siblings have broken the cycle except my brother. Anyway, I'm a fan of spanking but not beating. No place for that. And once the kid can reason somewhat there's not even a place for any spanking at all. And when you spank it should be more about the act versus any type of physical pain. Heck they're wearing diapers anyway and can't feel it. That's the philosophy at least not that I've always followed it.

But there is something to be said about the threat of violence. Like your kid says something and you just give him that look and he knows death is near. Few and far between but valuable. Some fathers couldn't pull that look off if their lives depended on it and some kids would laugh if they did anyway.
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I agree there is a difference between spanking and beating. I usually just have to ask my kids "Do I have to ask twice?" Then they strighten out.
 
CONAN said:
Took a lot of beatings growing up from dad. Knocked me unconsious one time. He was brutal. I think he was in Nam but can't remember but wherever it was did a pretty good number on him not to mention two alcoholics for parents. He's got issues. Most all my siblings have broken the cycle except my brother. Anyway, I'm a fan of spanking but not beating. No place for that. And once the kid can reason somewhat there's not even a place for any spanking at all. And when you spank it should be more about the act versus any type of physical pain. Heck they're wearing diapers anyway and can't feel it. That's the philosophy at least not that I've always followed it.

But there is something to be said about the threat of violence. Like your kid says something and you just give him that look and he knows death is near. Few and far between but valuable. Some fathers couldn't pull that look off if their lives depended on it and some kids would laugh if they did anyway.
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How in the hell do you not know if your dad was in Nam or not?
 
TroutBum said:
Any bow hunters in here? You know those Easton aluminum arrows that you shoot at game? My old man bent one of those into a rainbow over my *** because I didn't go to bed when he told me to. That, as one small example, is how I grew up. My dad beat the living damn out of me. I vowed to NEVER do that to my kids, but as I get older I realize some of the benefits, and I do spank my kids. My kids get ample warning before the spanking, and it's usually a 'last straw' kind of a thing -- but if they do something like back-talk their mom, run into the road, or lie (oh man, I have no patience for that) they get no warning, and it's usually a good hard swat. (or two if I don't think they got the message)

I rarely have to give spanks for the same thing twice, which is why I'm a proponent.
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Wooden arrows break. I learned that firsthand. My dad didn't know what to do after that.
 
Should be another option, yes, used to spank but not anymore. At least thats what happen to me.... as we grow better as parrents we learn better techniques. I spanked my older one few times, little one got spanked maybe once and thats it....no more spanking planned in the future:)
 
CONAN said:
He's pretty tight-lipped about his past. I have to piece stuff together but most times I don't care enough to. Up yours.
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That was my first thought as well. That, or his dad had died or divorced, both of which would suck. Way to show class and tact, Mr. Mantooth.
 
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