Tugged at the heartstrings...sorry no racist cops...

[LogGrad98]

https://losangeles.cbslocal.com/201...akes-ultimate-sacrifice-for-newborn-daughter/

Ashley Bridges was 10 weeks pregnant when she learned of her diagnosis. Although doctors recommended she start chemotherapy immediately, it would have required her to terminate her pregnancy.
“There’s no way I could kill a healthy baby because I’m sick,” Bridges told CBS2’s Kristine Lazar. During her third trimester, at eight months, Bridges was told that delaying treatment had allowed the cancer to spread.
“That’s basically when they told me that it was terminal,” she said.

Struck kind of close to home, although I cannot imagine being in such a situation.

Does set off an interesting discussion...is it better for the child to die, or the mother?

I wouldn't wish this situation on any one.

 

[Gameface]

At 8 months and an already serious cancer diagnosis. Pretty hard.

That's extremely sad.

There's no right answer.

 

[PearlWatson]

https://losangeles.cbslocal.com/201...akes-ultimate-sacrifice-for-newborn-daughter/



Struck kind of close to home, although I cannot imagine being in such a situation.

Does set off an interesting discussion...is it better for the child to die, or the mother?

I wouldn't wish this situation on any one.

I don't think you really want an abortion debate out of this.

It is just heartbreaking 2 kids will lose their mother.

 

[LogGrad98]

I don't think you really want an abortion debate out of this.

It is just heartbreaking 2 kids will lose their mother.

I was thinking more along the lines of which had more to offer society, or their family, etc. The unborn child or the mother who already has a place and people that depend on and love her. Like her assertion that the child belongs here and maybe she (the mother) doesn't.

 

[PearlWatson]

I was thinking more along the lines of which had more to offer society, or their family, etc. The unborn child or the mother who already has a place and people that depend on and love her. Like her assertion that the child belongs here and maybe she (the mother) doesn't.

I don't like that she is saying that because she has a husband and child who want her to stay, but I guess you could look at that the mother has lived her life and she is giving her child a chance at life...
Parents sacrificing for their children is the right way of things.

 

[Stoked]

I do not think, as already said, there is a "right" answer. It will change from mom to child depending on the family and people involved. Neither is wrong or right. Devestating either way.

 

[Joe Bagadonuts]

I think most parents have probably faced circumstances where they recognized they would sacrifice their life or health for their child, but to do it for a ten week old fetus is truly remarkable. What a difficult position to be put in. I'm in awe of the selfless decision that this woman made.

 

[moevillini]

We had a neighbor in a similar situation about 10 years ago. She was about 5 months along with her third child when she was diagnosed (I think hers was some form of lung cancer).

While she was not told she had to terminate the pregnancy, she was told that the doctors could not predict the effects of chemo/radiation on the fetus. Given her religious background (very religiously Catholic) I doubt termination was ever a real option - plus I really think she had faith that God would make things work out for her. So she chose to postpone treatment until after delivery, which was about 4 weeks early. In the interim the cancer metastasized, and she passed away when the baby was about 6 or 7 months old.

I believe she was also given the option of surgery without chemo/radiation - but decided against it because of potential risks to the unborn baby.

Very sad. And a very DIFFICULT situation.

What's even more sad, at least if there's any way for her to know this, is that after her death, her sister (with whom she'd been extremely competitive) moved in to take care of the baby and two other young children and ended up 2 years later marrying the widowed husband. They have since had 2 more children.

 

[Harambe]

I do not think, as already said, there is a "right" answer. It will change from mom to child depending on the family and people involved. Neither is wrong or right. Devestating either way.

I'd have leaned on terminating at 10 weeks. Easily. As I'm sure the doctors did...

But you're correct... there's not a right answer. Just one that makes more sense to the mother. That situation is pretty danged awful for everyone involved.

 

[HighlandHomie]

Does set off an interesting discussion...is it better for the child to die, or the mother?

It's an impossible question to answer - and I don't know if "better" is the most appropriate word choice. It all comes down to the mother and her personal beliefs/what she's most comfortable with.

I lost my older sister almost four years ago during child birth and my niece did not make it either. Without getting into too much detail, doctors suggested inducing labor early because my sister came down with a bad sickness (not cancer) to save the baby. The baby did not make it and my sister passed away almost 24 hours after. They could have terminated the pregnancy and my sister would have made it, but her and her husband were both committed to delivering their first child.

Needless to say everyone is still devastated by it. I still can't wrap my head around everything and can't imagine the magnitude/pressure of having to make a decision to kill an unborn baby to possibly save my own.

That's why I don't think one scenario can be "better" than another. I guess it just boils down to the fact that **** happens.

 

[Stoked]

I'd have leaned on terminating at 10 weeks. Easily. As I'm sure the doctors did...

But you're correct... there's not a right answer. Just one that makes more sense to the mother. That situation is pretty danged awful for everyone involved.

I'd want to keep my wife as well. But what makes sense to one does not to another.

 

[[size/HUGE] boobs [/size]]

Irresponsible to leave two children to maybe bore another. Only question should be what color coat hanger to do the honors with.

 

[TroutBum]

Even as someone who has gone through the heartbreak of losing a baby, there is no chance I risk losing my wife and the mother of my kids like this.

 

[♪alt13]

Irresponsible to leave two children to maybe bore another. Only question should be what color coat hanger to do the honors with.

Why do some people that are pro-choice choose to shame women that decide against abortion? It's bizarre.

Ya can't spell pro-choice without choice.

 

[default]

Irresponsible to leave two children to maybe bore another. Only question should be what color coat hanger to do the honors with.

I don't negative rep people, but this post made me debate if it was time to make an exception. I didn't, but wanted to publicly say that this post is over the line of being funny.

 

[Siro]

I'd leave the "right" answer to the people affected by this tragedy.

 

[Joe Bagadonuts]

Irresponsible to leave two children to maybe bore another. Only question should be what color coat hanger to do the honors with.

Absolutely repulsive. I'm tempted to neg elroacho as well for liking crap like this. I have no problem whatsoever with a woman who decides to an early term abortion (especially under these circumstances) but I am sickened by boobs comment, and calling a woman who chooses not to abort in a situation like this "irresponsible" is beyond low.

 

[[size/HUGE] boobs [/size]]

I don't negative rep people, but this post made me debate if it was time to make an exception. I didn't, but wanted to publicly say that this post is over the line of being funny.

Oh grow up. Life is tough. I'm not going to candy coat for you pro-lifers who needs soft way of speech to comfort you. There is no decision to be made in this instance.

 

[[size/HUGE] boobs [/size]]

Absolutely repulsive. I'm tempted to neg elroacho as well for liking crap like this. I have no problem whatsoever with a woman who decides to an early term abortion (especially under these circumstances) but I am sickened by boobs comment, and calling a woman who chooses not to abort in a situation like this "irresponsible" is beyond low.

She chose to die and left two children without a care giver. You call that not irresponsible moron? Try explaining that to Jesus.

 

[TroutBum]

She chose to die and left two children without a care giver. You call that not irresponsible moron? Try explaining that to Jesus.