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I am in the middle of a pretty difficult transition right now. Moved my family to Germany. Watched the Euro fall off way faster than anticipated. Having a tougher time with the language than anticipated. Many other unanticipated things happening, even though we put a ton of thought and effort into preparing for this move. This is shaping up to be one of the toughest things I have ever done. Sometimes I feel like it is just one light breeze away from the house of cards tumbling down. I remind myself it is a good experience and will be great long-term, but in the short term I am getting beat up by the trees, let alone just having them block my view of the forest.

So I wondered, what are some of the hardest, toughest, most difficult things you have ever done? What was the outcome? What carried you through?

TIA


Log


edit: I wanted to clarify, I am talking about tough decisions and their resulting outcomes, not just tough situations. I have been in far far tougher situations than this, in which I had no choice in the matter.
 
LogGrad98 said:
I am in the middle of a pretty difficult transition right now. Moved my family to Germany. Watched the Euro fall off way faster than anticipated. Having a tougher time with the language than anticipated. Many other unanticipated things happening, even though we put a ton of thought and effort into preparing for this move. This is shaping up to be one of the toughest things I have ever done. Sometimes I feel like it is just one light breeze away from the house of cards tumbling down. I remind myself it is a good experience and will be great long-term, but in the short term I am getting beat up by the trees, let alone just having them block my view of the forest.

So I wondered, what are some of the hardest, toughest, most difficult things you have ever done? What was the outcome? What carried you through?

TIA


Log


edit: I wanted to clarify, I am talking about tough decisions and their resulting outcomes, not just tough situations. I have been in far far tougher situations than this, in which I had no choice in the matter.
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Wait, is this an actual saying? How can trees block your view of the forest when trees are what a forest is?
 
LogGrad98 said:
I am in the middle of a pretty difficult transition right now. Moved my family to Germany. Watched the Euro fall off way faster than anticipated. Having a tougher time with the language than anticipated. Many other unanticipated things happening, even though we put a ton of thought and effort into preparing for this move. This is shaping up to be one of the toughest things I have ever done. Sometimes I feel like it is just one light breeze away from the house of cards tumbling down. I remind myself it is a good experience and will be great long-term, but in the short term I am getting beat up by the trees, let alone just having them block my view of the forest.

So I wondered, what are some of the hardest, toughest, most difficult things you have ever done? What was the outcome? What carried you through?

TIA


Log


edit: I wanted to clarify, I am talking about tough decisions and their resulting outcomes, not just tough situations. I have been in far far tougher situations than this, in which I had no choice in the matter.
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Well, don't misconstrue my comment as positive or anything. While I would get oh about as much immediate satisfaction out of the news that you're coming home as the news that Peeks is actually going to let me come visit him, my whole life does not depend on your decision here.

I suspect yours doesn't, either.

So you agreed to play this game, and it's gonna be a hard one to win handsdown. Reminds me of when my brother was playing in a local league, basketball. He was the main show on his team, I think. They were getting beaten, down about twenty points in the fourth quarter. My brother shouted out, loud enough for the whole gym to hear.

"Now! We've got'em where we want 'em!" And shifted into some kind of unreal overdrive, making every shot he took, and intercepting every pass they made, if not stealing the ball off their dribbles, and did in fact win that game.

So languages get harder as you get older, and change gets tougher. And Reno is a nice place. Since I met you I've been back there about five times, camping overnight behind that McDonalds, and exploring the neighborhood. Have seen all the trucking business there, and the big place eight miles down the canyon. Still, you are OK, and if the worst happens you're still OK.

Today is about the toughest time ever in my life. I did roll outta bed, and I am on my road again, doing what needs doing.

Keep on keepin' on.
 
When I bring up that kind of thought in my mind, another thought usually comes up to kill it. It's basically like the cliché "How hard could my work could be? I'm not a coal miner. My entire labor of my life does not compare to their one day of work" This is my way of thinking though. And it' s probably kind of a defensive system to protect my ego breaking down.
 
Dang Log, by the way you are posting, one would not know that you are having such a tough time. Keep working hard, and I hope it works out for you. You seem like a good dude, who cares about his family and stuff.

The only thing I can compare this to in my life is when I served an LDS mission. I had a constant headache for like first 8 months of my mission, something to do with overworking myself, too little sleep and learning chinese. I remember wanting to punch my trainer in the throat every day, and I was companions with him for like 6 months. I just wanted it to be over for almost the first year. But then I started liking it and having fun. I suppose it was because I was learning the language and we got an extra hour of sleep the second half of my mission after the mission pres stopped being a dick about our studies.

The other thing that was pretty difficult was the first three years at my current job. I took a huge pay cut to hopefully have a career that was something I had wanted for a long time. I had a vision for the company that my bosses did not understand, and it took a long time to communicate that to them. There were plenty of times where I looked at what I was doing, and thought that I was a joke, or that I was wasting the first years of my career for nothing in return. I still have not seen the financial windfall that I thought was inevitable, and it has become apparent that I will never see that, but I have a decent salary, and I have been part of growing my company by almost 400% over the last 5 years. I am not entirely sure, but I think I have a decent experience to put on a resume for the future, and have a lot of management experience going forward, whether or not I decide to stick it out with this company.

Stick it out if you can, you will probably be better for it, and will have a great experience when the dust settles and you get used to the changes.
 
Trying to complete my Masters degree while battling depression was pretty tough.


It's been 10 years now but I still remembered it well. The degree served me well though so it was all worth it in the end. I learnt a lot from it in terms of perseverance, hard work, and just keep on keeping and staying on course. Never want to get back there again.
 
OK so tough decision... when I quit my job in one of the Big 4 accounting firm and decided for lifestyle reason to move back to help run a family business.


In the beginning it was really tough having to deal with family members, attitude clash, etc, and working without pay for the first 2 years was pretty brutal also, but we had a 5 year plan in place and we knew first off that the first couple of years were going to be stuff. But you've just gotta have your eye on the prize and just keep that focus and keep walking. It's been 5 years now and we're doing really well to the point that our parents are now retired and we're running the business by ourselves.


My advice to you if I have any would be thiS: it's good to have a plan, but don't try to focus too much on that. Try to focus on what you can do each day and what needs to be done each day and complete each day the best you can. Keep the plans in the back of your mind but if you focus too much on them, you often get overwhelmed and don't perform today's task as well as you should.


Just my 2 cents.
 
I've never considered anything I've done to be overly hard or difficult. I don't get hung up on things for long and forget emotional imprintations quickly enough.
 
ONE LOVE said:
...My advice to you if I have any would be thiS: it's good to have a plan, but don't try to focus too much on that. Try to focus on what you can do each day and what needs to be done each day and complete each day the best you can. Keep the plans in the back of your mind but if you focus too much on them, you often get overwhelmed and don't perform today's task as well as you should.


Just my 2 cents.
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Agree with this.

I truly have been pretty lucky in not having many difficulties to confront or overcome. Raising children is a challenge and in spite of what I thought has not gotten easier as they've gotten older. "Bigger kids, bigger problems" is a truism.

I guess in general what's helped me get through the trying times is trying to maintain a sense of humor, rolling with the punches and having faith that the difficulties won't last forever.

This too shall pass...
 
The next year is going to come and go regardless of what you do. 365 days from now, you're either going to be happy as a pig in **** that you stuck it out, or super pissed that you let the ******** win.


In short: Buck the **** up, man. Hard work always pays off. (coming from the guy who has never worked a hard day in his life)
 
franklin said:
I've never considered anything I've done to be overly hard or difficult. I don't get hung up on things for long and forget emotional imprintations quickly enough.
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ducks are pretty quick on the imprint. Guess they have to swim with the current, then get up to altitude for going a thousand miles, not much of a payoff for extra baggage.

If you're not a duck, don't duck it.
 
Not sure if I'm answering this thread correctly-- it has to be a single decision?

I'll just describe a tough period in my life.

Living through the experience of being active in the arguments trying to reconcile a marriage that was falling apart between my two parents, while helping care for my uncle while he was fighting stage IV Cancer, and fundraising for his treatment seeing as he wasn't a Canadian citizen & he therefore had no healthcare coverage. This was when I was age 13-16. Tough, but those three years defined me-- completely. And I'm a better, stronger, more empathetic person having persevered through it.


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