I can see where you're coming from with this post, but for the record, I never said the Mormon church "controls" the state of Utah. Do I think Mormon influence's seep into our government and effect the outcome of many decisions made at the state level? Absolutley, and looking at it that way, I think it's more than fair to say that qualifies as a lack of seperation from church and state.
It's also not just a Utah/LDS issue. This happens everywhere. The dry counties you mentioned in your prior post are usually the result of local bible thumpers who want to keep their county sin free in their eyes.
I have 2 comments on this. It is possible that most of the people that are represented, have been represented fairly. It's more likely that more is allowed than most people agree with.
You are trying to turn this into a religious issue, when it is a people issue. You cannot take religion out of the equation when it is a part of who people are. That's like telling you to forget all of your feelings for the LDS Church and or BYU, when choosing between similar jobs, one at BYU campus, and the other very similar and just as far away, but not there.
Lawmakers do need to base a large part of what goes on from the people they represent, but they also have to use their own life experience and moral compass to direct them. You cannot cut your religion from you when you make decisions, it is a part of you, not an article of clothing.
If you are saying Utah lawmakers need to listen more to the people they represent, I can agree with that, but you are turning "separation of church and state" into something that it is not. This phrase began early in our country's history and had to do more with religious freedom, and keeping the government out of regulating religion. Even if a church stands for certain principles, it is still up to the people to vote how they feel they should. This does not mean that any church should stop teaching what they stand for just because there is a law being voted on. The church does not get a vote, it is still the people that vote.
I don't think the separation you are looking for is realistic. The only way I see of you getting your private utopia is to move somewhere where most people agree with you.