My whole life, in every situation, there has been someone else who had the choice to change my life completely and with little I could do about it. Teachers, employers, policemen, etc. You must be in a special place if you are untouchable in that regard. Like, white-men-land.
I haven't claimed that men are unaffected; I've specifically said both men and women are affected. I think you have to be a male to think there might be a way for you to be unaffected.