PearlWatson
Well-Known Member
Let's talk about it.
Have you prepared for your death or prepared for the death of a spouse?
If you have what are the things I need to consider that people might not think of beforehand?
Have you made a will? Would you go to an estate planner for this? I've heard the worst thing you can do for your children is not to have a will and leave them with all kinds of fights.
Have you decided on where you want your minor children to go in case of your death? How would you go about deciding this?
Do you plan on leaving a message for anyone in the form of letters or video?
Do you have the needed information for life insurance, bank accounts, lines of credit, passwords for internet accounts, etc. for your spouse?
Have you talked with your spouse about their wishes regarding their death?
Where do you want to be buried? or cremated and spread your ashes?
What do you want on your tombstone? Will you be sharing it with someone?
What do you want written in your obituary? Will you write your own, beside the "how & when" part?
What do you want to be wearing or have in the casket with you?
My grandfather planned his own funeral (song, eulogy, prayers) after a stupid girl crashed into him and broke his ribs and such. He paid for it with the settlement money from the car accident, but he chose the wrong executor so there were still fights that could have been avoided.
Choose your executor carefully.
I'm sure it is really difficult to make all these decisions in the middle of mourning so I'd like to do the planning now to make it easier on everyone.
The internet is really a great resource for all of this:
I like their Life Legacy Card idea:
Have you prepared for your death or prepared for the death of a spouse?
If you have what are the things I need to consider that people might not think of beforehand?
Have you made a will? Would you go to an estate planner for this? I've heard the worst thing you can do for your children is not to have a will and leave them with all kinds of fights.
Have you decided on where you want your minor children to go in case of your death? How would you go about deciding this?
Do you plan on leaving a message for anyone in the form of letters or video?
Do you have the needed information for life insurance, bank accounts, lines of credit, passwords for internet accounts, etc. for your spouse?
Have you talked with your spouse about their wishes regarding their death?
Where do you want to be buried? or cremated and spread your ashes?
What do you want on your tombstone? Will you be sharing it with someone?
What do you want written in your obituary? Will you write your own, beside the "how & when" part?
What do you want to be wearing or have in the casket with you?
My grandfather planned his own funeral (song, eulogy, prayers) after a stupid girl crashed into him and broke his ribs and such. He paid for it with the settlement money from the car accident, but he chose the wrong executor so there were still fights that could have been avoided.
Choose your executor carefully.
I'm sure it is really difficult to make all these decisions in the middle of mourning so I'd like to do the planning now to make it easier on everyone.
The internet is really a great resource for all of this:
"Getting your affairs in order" means planning ahead for your death by handling whatever legal matters, financial stuff, or other details you need to handle, so that (ideally) nothing gets left up in the air for others to untangle when you go. Typically people do this for their own peace of mind, and to make things easier on their loved ones. Most people start getting their affairs in order only after reaching an age when they feel they could die, or after being diagnosed with a terminal illness -- if then. Many people never get around to doing it at all.
But a smaller -- and I suspect growing -- subset of people take it upon themselves to start this process while they are young and healthy. And I would like to encourage this.
I like their Life Legacy Card idea:
https://www.squidoo.com/affairs-in-orderWhat Is a Life Legacy Card?
"Life Legacy Card" is a name I came up with for a card, sheet, or electronic file that you use to provide your loved ones and/or your legal representative with the following information:
I. WILL
Do you have a will? If so, say where they can find it and who you've appointed as the executor.
II. ACCOUNTS
1) Lists of bank accounts, investment accounts, etc. List the account numbers. Or not - that information shouldn't be hard for your loved ones to retrieve, once they have your death certificate. The key here is to list what accounts they need to be aware of. When they know what to look for, retrieving the account numbers shouldn't be hard. (NOTE: Good idea to NOT list the passwords here. We'll get to the matter of passwords later.)
2) Lists of other accounts:
- Mortgage
- Amazon and other online merchants you have accounts with
- Brick-and-mortars stores you have accounts with (increasingly rare these days but still happens)
- Phone company (landline, and cellphone)
- Utility company
- Landlord/landlady
3) Non-money accounts but ones that are important:
- Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and other social networks
- Squidoo, Blogger, and other publishing platforms
- etc.
4) Any online services you use
- Webhosting
- Domain name registrations
(For many people, all of these will be under the same roof).
Your loved ones will naturally need to cancel these accounts. Also, in the case of social networks, they are a handy way for your loved ones to get the word out about your death.
III. PEOPLE TO CONTACT
List the names of your friends and colleagues to contact. If you have a large social and business circle, or many circles, list one or two "hub" people for each circle. Compose a form letter for your loved ones to use in getting the word out. They will be dealing with grief and with the various logistical arrangements, and any work you can save them will be a great kindness.
You might even want to make an electronic file that contains just the email addresses of those who they should contact. Then all they need to do is copy and paste into the TO line of their email.