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I'm not typically sappy like this...
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Archie Moses
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Not gonna lie, this is my first year being a single - dad I felt pressure or guilty of having a great Christmas for my son. (Second Christmas single) I knew we'd have a good Christmas with family, but it was beyond depressing on Christmas Eve laying in bed with him in his crib next to me thinking I had no tree, gifts or decorations at my house and the next day was Christmas. I felt so very small. :/
I truly understand your feelings.
Please take this seriously and it is NOT cliche.
Kids, at any age, want us to hold them, love them, and spend a little time with them. The 'stuff' will ultimately mean not a damn thing.
You have everything any kid would want in a dad. Someone that's loving, kind, caring, nurturing, funny, and can be the super-dad.
Just do it and don't look back.
Also, kids at any age are FAR more resilient than adults. They aren't nearly as shallow or hold a grudge like their parents do.
Dat Private Message doe....
Archie, My brother and I were adopted and then my parents got divorced when I was 3 and my brother was5. He was rich and tried to buy our love with all sorts of things. Including cruises, aspen skiing vacations, disney world vacations, any new gaming system that came out and a back yard that had a basketball court, jungle gym, jacuzzi and hiking trails. She was a single mom with two boys. She could simply not provide those things. However she truly loved us and was there for us. She listened to and cared about what we thought and had to say.
I have not seen or talked to my dad since I was 16. I was always close to my mother.
I am actually raising my oldest daughter even though she is not mine and I am not with her mother anymore. Her biological dad is still alive and they live in the same town. I live 40 minutes away in another town. She comes over to my house all the time. She has to be forced to go see her biological dad even for an afternoon. It is hard watching him make all the mistakes that my father made.
You cannot buy a childs love. Simply won't work. When your son is grown he will know who loved him and was there for him. Same as my daugther will. In the end you will win simply by caring and spending time with him. It is tough, man do I know that, but the goal is worth it.
I have not seen or talked to my dad since I was 16. I was always close to my mother.
I am actually raising my oldest daughter even though she is not mine and I am not with her mother anymore. Her biological dad is still alive and they live in the same town. I live 40 minutes away in another town. She comes over to my house all the time. She has to be forced to go see her biological dad even for an afternoon. It is hard watching him make all the mistakes that my father made.
You cannot buy a childs love. Simply won't work. When your son is grown he will know who loved him and was there for him. Same as my daugther will. In the end you will win simply by caring and spending time with him. It is tough, man do I know that, but the goal is worth it.
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Archie Moses
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It really had nothing to do with buying my son gifts or having Christmas decorations (I did buy him gifts and the kid is dope.) It was more of the lonely feeling sleeping in a room with him, at 30, and getting hit real hard with a dose of, "this is life." I just never imagined being single and being alone with my son on Christmas Eve. It's a very lonely feeling.
With that said, not to toot my horn much, but I'm a great father.
This is one thing I bought him for Christmas. This dapper outfit. The kid is incredibly happy and easy to take care of. So much fun.
Archie Moses
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BTW, I have my son call honz, uncle Joey.
Cut it out.
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Cut it out.
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