On the next play Stockton would crack Delante's ribs if only Malone wouldn't get his elbows first on him. That's where difference is.
In Stockton and Malone's day, it wouldn't get them a season long suspension. Really bad comparison. Just because you don't cripple another person for a chump move doesn't make you soft. In fact, it makes you tough, mentally tough, which is the most important kind. This is also a sign of leadership, because he's leading by example and teaching his teammates to rise above immaturity by giving in to their attempt to get in your head.
All of this talk of leadership is ridiculous. The Jazz are being built to lead by committee, a la some of the most successful teams of the last fifteen years. You don't need one guy to take over everything to become leaders, you need good players that compliment each other, get others involved, and lead by example. Hayward does all of those things. He doesn't need to be our one and only leader to earn his money.