vegas
Well-Known Member
The more we rehash this topic, the more bent out of shape we all get. The emotional bank account is in full effect here. Very few of the posters here feel like another poster truly loves them (cares about them on an individual level). The trouble with this is in order to have a chance to reach or change somebody you must make emotional deposits, before they will be willing to consider a withdrawal (changing their mindset, life, actions etc.)
In other words if you are not close friends or have a mutual reverence with a poster here, it may actually have the opposite outcome of what you are trying to achieve because we are missing the key ingredient of love in many instances. Another great quote that I feel is relevant here is: "Nobody wins an argument."
This asking for change without first extending love is doing a lot of damage and building tribalism and encouraging segregation. Everybody feels like nobody listens and understands, because we often omit love in our discussions and arguments.
I doubt I have the reputation to make this point, I hope you all will tolerate me posting what's on my mind.
In other words if you are not close friends or have a mutual reverence with a poster here, it may actually have the opposite outcome of what you are trying to achieve because we are missing the key ingredient of love in many instances. Another great quote that I feel is relevant here is: "Nobody wins an argument."
This asking for change without first extending love is doing a lot of damage and building tribalism and encouraging segregation. Everybody feels like nobody listens and understands, because we often omit love in our discussions and arguments.
I doubt I have the reputation to make this point, I hope you all will tolerate me posting what's on my mind.