agree on still having a ways to go...
It didn't seem the hesitation was anywhere near 4 seconds, and it seemed to occur more in deciding what term to use to refer to her girlfriend more so than in acknowledging that she was sharing her joy with someone special to her
and maybe my additional husband would know how to take out the garbage!
So are any of you seriously advocating that polygamy be elevated to a legal status similar to a marriage between two people? Because I'm wondering what parameters you would consider reasonable.
For instance, if two people were married, and one of them wanted to add a third person to the marriage, would the other partner have to agree? And would all three be married to each of the others?
It doesn't seem that you should allow one of the spouses to have a second spouse if it would create an unequal relationship between the three spouses. And, if it is a situation with multiple women, do all the women in the marriage have full custody rights to a child that any of them gave birth to?
Or in the case of multiple men, is it presumed that both are the father of any children born during the marriage, again with full custody rights regardless of what any paternity test might show?
Just curious how you geniuses would work out all these issues.
I absolutely am. My criteria:
- Consenting adults
- No minors
- Open to any mix of numbers and genders
- All partners have to agree to adding a new husband or wife as the new partner would be marrying them all
If a woman marries three men and they are all adults who want it that way then what business is it of ours?
As for custody issues. A few extra lines on a BC are easily fixable. Any of them can make medical, financial or educational decisions. In the case of a divorce the biological parents get first crack after that the other husbands and/or wives.
It could look like this on a BC:
Biological Mother:
Jane Dow
Additonal Mothers:
Judy Dow
June Dow
It doesn't take a genius to butt out of people lives and to simply make room.