my uncle owns a 2001 4Runner, thing is indestructible. Make sure it's the V6 engine. It's simply a well-rounded car in every aspect-- spacious, safe. Not particularly fuel-effecient, but not terrible either. Some of them have rust problems here in Canada, but I'm sure the cars will be minty in California.
It really depends what your income is like, and what you want in a car. Functional, or something with some flair.
If you want flair, and have disposable income, maybe look into an early 90s Mercedes G. Make sure it's the 3.4l diesel engine. The cars are INSANE reliable, and generally very well taken care of. Off-road monsters, yet comfortable people-carriers. Not bulky at all, either. Rather good-looking IRL, very Jeep-esque. But, of course, the parts will tend to be rather expensive if something were to break.
If you want something newer, get a wagon IMO. We're a euro-family, and we have owned Volkswagens, BMWs, Audis and MBs-- Mercedes-Benz has been the most reliable of the lot (2 volkswagens, 1 Audi, 2 BMWs, 2 MBs).
Unfortunately the selection of Japanese wagons in NA is rather limited, apart from Subaru. Going alone with a newer version of your Outback wouldnt be a bad idea, but I wasn't too stoked on the handling of our old 1998 Subaru Forester. German machines are simply different to drive, in my experience. I'm on my 2nd Benz myself (cue Albanian stereotypes) and I really think I'll stick with them for the rest of my life.