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I'll go one further...if you do find an attorney who would at least give you an hour or two of broad advice on the key issues, I'll bet there are 10 or so of us on this board who would be willing to donate $20 to you. You sound like a solid guy and you absolutely MUST get some legal counsel re: the loans and the children.
 
MoTown16 said:
I'll go one further...if you do find an attorney who would at least give you an hour or two of broad advice on the key issues, I'll bet there are 10 or so of us on this board who would be willing to donate $20 to you. You sound like a solid guy and you absolutely MUST get some legal counsel re: the loans and the children.
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I would contribute
Word is bond dog
 
"If you aint no punk holler WE WANT PRENUP WE WANT PRENUP!" -Kayne West

But seriously, in my religion (I bet none of you can guess what it is) a prenup is required of a marriage.

I don't want to be captain hindsight here though.

Sorry for your situation I have nothing beneficial to say. All I can say is hopefully you find a nice girl who treats you right in the future and preferably has bigger nicer rounder softer boobs to make your ex jealous.
 
CONAN said:
WTF you go on tilt for weird things (and from your post it looks like stuff has been building up for you). But at least you didn't send me weird PMs this time so that's improvement. Ease off the creepy shtick, Broseph.
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What's so strange/creepy about asking if you're always a dick in real life too?
 
PKM said:
What's so strange/creepy about asking if you're always a dick in real life too?
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Because I was bantering with UGLI, and you just randomly jump in and decide to be the dick police. And from your post you make it clear this has been bothering you for awhile. And you send me PMs saying much the same. That's creepy, Dude. But I'll admit I am here much, much less than yourself. So there may be some sort of message board unwritten rules I'm breaking here. So sorry for that.
As I see it, I was responding to the OP in sincerity; UGLI took a shot at me (surprise); and I took a shot back (apparently this may be taboo); at that point you jumped in and went on tilt (surprise).
 
.. and I don't mind explaining why I asked. No, you don't bother me in the least (sorry)... I said I was curious and it's really that simple.

I met a certain poster on here that claimed he knows you (I didn't bring you up.. he was just randomly telling me everyone he's met) and said you're actually a pretty cool dude. I was just curious if being a dick is your schtik/persona... that is all.. no need to make it more complicated.
 
In the same vein of thought of my above "contribution", it seems entirely probable that "pickledXgrandma", PKM, and Conan might all be alts of the same basementdweller seventeen year old "nerd" who doesn't dare ask the girl next door to walk with him to the Arctic Circle two blocks away for some ice cream, dutch of course. . . . . lol.

PickledKonan'sMom would connect it all.

Thank JFanz we get to play all day.

And, oh, btw. . . . . when people come around to ask for my advice, I laugh. loud.

My wife says she thinks the OP in this thread should stop talking to imaginary people on the interwebz and turn around and talk to his girl. Might make all the difference. ha ha.

I know she's really trying to tell me something.
 
babe said:
In the same vein of thought of my above "contribution", it seems entirely probable that "pickledXgrandma", PKM, and Conan might all be alts of the same basementdweller seventeen year old "nerd" who doesn't dare ask the girl next door to walk with him to the Arctic Circle two blocks away for some ice cream, dutch of course. . . . . lol.

PickledKonan'sMom would connect it all.

Thank JFanz we get to play all day.

And, oh, btw. . . . . when people come around to ask for my advice, I laugh. loud.

My wife says she thinks the OP in this thread should stop talking to imaginary people on the interwebz and turn around and talk to his girl. Might make all the difference. ha ha.

I know she's really trying to tell me something.
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Haha Babe never ceases to make me laugh. One of my favorite posters of all time.
 
Chris-L said:
I don't know for sure, but most of the theories you guys are throwing out have a bit of truth to them. She has been hanging out with new friends the last 6 months-year. The kind of people that aren't doing **** with their lives, but are fun to party with. And I think she misses that. She doesn't want to be tied down. I don't think there is another man she has feelings for. It's just frustrating. So much pain and suffering over something so stupid. I honestly believe she will want me back in a few years when she gets it out of her system, but it will be too late. Such a shame for my children.
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Few years? After reading this and some of your other posts I'm thinking a few months. I could be wrong but I think I'm starting to understand your wife. She had kid early in life - probably way before she was prepared. While she loves her kids she feels she missed out a part of her life. She goes to school and meets people - people with much less responsibilities than her. She meets a few guys who flirt with her and that makes her feel good about herself. Those feelings lead to delusions that she can be one of them and lead the lives they lead. But that ship has sailed and sooner or later (probably sooner) she's going to become reacquainted with that fact. When that happens she's going to want you back. I don't know how old your wife is but I've read about mid-twenties crisis - it sounds a lot like that.

Good luck.
 
candrew said:
Few years? After reading this and some of your other posts I'm thinking a few months. I could be wrong but I think I'm starting to understand your wife. She had kid early in life - probably way before she was prepared. While she loves her kids she feels she missed out a part of her life. She goes to school and meets people - people with much less responsibilities than her. She meets a few guys who flirt with her and that makes her feel good about herself. Those feelings lead to delusions that she can be one of them and lead the lives they lead. But that ship has sailed and sooner or later (probably sooner) she's going to become reacquainted with that fact. When that happens she's going to want you back. I don't know how old your wife is but I've read about mid-twenties crisis - it sounds a lot like that.

Good luck.
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On the other hand, what happens when she reaches 30.40, 50 and has crises. Does she again bail on whoever her husband or BF is at the time. It hurts; I had the same feeling that my ex would come to me after she woke up. And she did. Then she disappeared. Then she came back. I finally realized she wasn't coming back for love; she was coming back because she was either empty after a breakup or needed money (or both).
 
MoTown16 said:
On the other hand, what happens when she reaches 30.40, 50 and has crises. Does she again bail on whoever her husband or BF is at the time. It hurts; I had the same feeling that my ex would come to me after she woke up. And she did. Then she disappeared. Then she came back. I finally realized she wasn't coming back for love; she was coming back because she was either empty after a breakup or needed money (or both).
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You could very well be right. But I was just giving my take on the situation - I'm not advocating that Chris take her back. Ultimately that's his decision.
 
She is doing you a favor. Run for the hills. You must get a lawyer to minimize the financial impact on yourself going forward and to try to get as much time with the kids as possible. You made a huge mistake marrying her and having kids with her, now you must cut your losses quickly and as efficiently as possible.

This type of women is not that uncommon. She is a train wreck. Always has been, always will be. She has some significant psychological issues.

You probably should get some counseling for yourself to figure out your role in this entire saga so as to not repeat the process going forward.


You never mentioned this, or at least I missed it, did she complete her degree? What level? What field of study?
 
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