Spend less time on Jazzfanz, more time with the kid.
It's a win-win-win.
Congrats.
It's a win-win-win.
Congrats.
I did what many told me not to and I would like your wisdom, guys
- Thread starter Archie Moses
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and after three or four blinks they'll be graduating from high school...
yes, it really does seem to go that fast!
Congrats - and post pictures.
I'd echo what was said in the first few posts. Enjoy!!! Don't sweat the small stuff - and with a baby, almost everything is small stuff!!!
One thing I hadn't realized with my first was how much newborns sleep the first week or two. As a new mom, I had more time on my hands than I was expecting.
Also, my kids all lived in onesies and sleepers the first month or so, all those cute little outfits were way too big on them at the beginning, and just too much work to put on them. Once they got to be a couple months old, they were easier to dress and the outfits fit them better.
My family has big babies. My daughters were 8 pounders and are only average in my family.
***Here is the best advice you'll ever get and I've never known it to not work. Don't always make it silent and dark when your kid is put to sleep and don't always have them sleep in the exact same spot! Most parents do that since it is easier to get the baby to sleep the first few times; however, then the kid will only be able to sleep in those conditions and it will take them a LOT longer to learn how to sleep through the night. Sometimes I'd have the lights on, other times off. Sometimes I'd have a radio on, sometimes vacuum in their room, sometimes have loud conversations by their room, sometimes run a humidifier, etc. Sometimes have them in their crib, sometimes on a blanket, etc. My kids learned to sleep through the night (at least 7 hours straight) ranging from 4-7 weeks old. Many kids get well past a year old before they can do that. I've given this advice to others before and they range anywhere from 1-3 months and always say it makes sense and worked for them, but they never would have thought of it. Enjoy some sleep and time with your wife and thank me later. 
HipHopAnonymous
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Just remember when they get that special little look in their eyes, that they are about to stab you with something.
PearlWatson
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Babies are designed to respond to/pay more attention to higher pitched voices. Just saying.
If anyone gave your wife the advice to wake the baby up to feed it...don't do it.
Take a picture at least once a day because babies change so much from day to day.
WE had one kid under 8 pounds (something like 7lb 14 oz), the other four ranged from 8-5 to 9-10. My wife is 5ft 9 in, so it was not too burdensome on her.
I think I might hate you out of envy now.
I can't believe it, but I'm agreeing with something Millsapa is saying. There's an expression out there that says "Don't wake a sleeping baby". I agree with it 100%. The baby will wake itself up when it wants to eat. You'll be going on not enough sleep anyway, so there's no reason to add to it.
And one other thing: Don't ever teach it the to say "hehepeepeecaca".
My babies mama is 5'10 so yea same thing. Had them both, showered, got ready and asked to be released lol. She was not a happy camper when she was told no.
hehepeepeecaca is going to take on a whole new very literal meaning for Archie. He'll probably never want to say(type) it again.
This pretty much says it all. To add to a few others:
Always laugh and joke when they get hurt. My wife GASPS and RUSHES over to help, and all it does is make your kid a friggin' puss-wad.
You can't say, "I love you" enough, and consequently, you can't hear it enough either. It's the best.
Please, for the love of the Gods, SPANK your kids. Timeout's and lectures don't teach your kids a damn thing. All that teaches them is, "If I don't do what I'm told, the worst that will happen is I get to go relax by myself for a few minutes." Rough. Discipline early and often, don't let them get away with anything, and you'll be surprised at how much you DON'T have to discipline them when they get older. You'll be shocked at how smart your children will be, and how fast they 'get it' when it comes to doing things they're not supposed to. Don't fall into the excuse trap that, "They're only XX years old!" -- that's a load of crap. Don't beat your kids, but let them know that you're the boss and what you say is LAW. Break the law, feel the wrath. Your kids' future teachers, bosses, friends and relatives will thank you. Best of all, your kids will thank you.
Talk to them like they're adults. Ask A LOT of questions. Questions about everything. "Do you want to wear this shirt today? You do? Alright!" or "Do you like XXXX food? You do? Sweet!" I'm serious, ask them everything. They'll pick up talking a lot sooner and I think it helps them gain confidence, teaches them how to make choices, etc. Again, you'll be shocked at how smart their little brains are, and they'll say and do the most amazing things if you just cultivate their minds a little.
Get a schedule! Put them to bed at the same time, every night, never fail. Trust me on this one.
That reminds me, when my wife talked to my son she would always say things like "tall green tree" or "big red truck" instead of "tree" and "car." We always talked to our son like we talked to each other. He developed speech and a good sized vocabulary early.
mellow
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You want to help your son? Love his mother.
Sometimes babies cry, close the door and walk away.
Get down on the floor to play.
Everybody can see you are bigger than he is, there is NEVER a reason to prove it.
You can control your phone, your tv, your car, your computer. The kid is his own person, don't freak out if he wants to do things his own way. Personality begins to show earlier than you'd think.
Trouts rule about bedtime--you'd be wise to listen. Let me add that your bed is NOT for kids. Take them to the couch but don't you or your wife teach them to sleep with you or they'll never get out.
Sometimes babies cry, close the door and walk away.
Get down on the floor to play.
Everybody can see you are bigger than he is, there is NEVER a reason to prove it.
You can control your phone, your tv, your car, your computer. The kid is his own person, don't freak out if he wants to do things his own way. Personality begins to show earlier than you'd think.
Trouts rule about bedtime--you'd be wise to listen. Let me add that your bed is NOT for kids. Take them to the couch but don't you or your wife teach them to sleep with you or they'll never get out.
Don't take any trips to Penn State within the next 16 years.
You make some really good points here. My kids don't sleep in our bed either. We'll sometimes take naps together in my bed. But if I wake up to a kid coming in, I don't let them crawl into my bed. If they say they're scared, I lay down with them in their bed.
That's actually really good advice. We also teach our kids very basic sign language. It helps them express themselves before they learn how to formulate a lot of words. Significantly cuts down on the fits they throw if they can sign "more" or "drink" before they can actually say them. A local Utah mom had a deaf daughter and she made a series of DVDs on a very young kid level. My kids watch them from a young age and pick it up really quick. Plus, it impresses the crap out of others. They are called Baby Signing Time.
sign language is very popular it seems, I know 2 babies (9-15 months) who use it fairly well. part of it is that babies generally have much better gross motor control of their arms/hands than fine motor control of their lips and tongues. It's a great way to teach/reinforce the concept of language.
As far as never waking a sleeping baby, I had one kid I had to wake or he'd be a screaming banshee. I could tell when he'd start to stir and I'd wake him up and get him out of bed - he'd be as pleasant as could be. If I let him wake up himself, he'd wake up having a major tantrum. It was just something we learned by trial and error, but it helped immensely. Another one of my kids would not go to sleep unless I gently rubbed his eyelids so he'd be forced to close his eyes. After a minute or so of that, he'd be asleep. You just never know!
This is getting a little further afield, but let them have choices and make decisions like Trout mentioned. Keep it simple, like letting them pick the yellow shirt or the orange shirt. And as has been said, talk to them using lots of adjectives/adverbs.
Oh, and hold off on starting him on a regimen of six months of heavy lifting, OK?