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I did what many told me not to and I would like your wisdom, guys

Archie Moses

Archie Moses

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So, I'm a dad. My son was born yesterday at 2 pm and we will be going home from the hospital tomorrow afternoon. I would like to know from the parents out there what you wish you knew when you had your first. Any tricks, tips, and advice would be greatly appreciated.

Now that I'm a father and looking back, Trout does a great job expressing the overwhelming feeling of having a kid and loving it so deeply, but even that doesn't begin to express how incredible the experience is. Good times fellow Jazz fanz, good times.

Hehepeepeecaca
 
Congratulations, first of all.

I know it's hard to do with your first, or second, but try to not freak out over every little thing.
It's okay if babies cry.
Protect them from the big things at first, but let them learn things on their own if they have to like falling down when learning to walk.
Change the diapers, it's really no big deal.
Talk to them, even though they can't talk to you, they are smart and get more than you think they do.
Don't use baby talk, talk to them like they are a person, it's so annoying when parents do that squeaky baby talk garbage.
Just enjoy the moments. Even being awake in the middle of the night, find some way to appreciate the lack of sleep and less time for yourself.
Above all, teach that kid to be a Jazz fan.
 
Congratulations!

The best thing I can tell you is be a little more forgiving than you think you should be, and a little less stern than you think you should be.

Also take all the advice you are going to get with a healthy dose of salt.
 
I remember the days right before and weeks after my son was born so well. It was a crazy time! Everything turned out great, but there was a lot of drama. Much ado about nothing, luckily. Anyway, there's life before having a child and life after having a child. Welcome to your new life. It's yours. You're going to have to figure it out. There's very little chance most of the good advice you'll get will make any sense to you right now. But most good people figure it all out and end up doing okay. I think you're gonna do fine.
 
LogGrad98 said:
Congratulations!

The best thing I can tell you is be a little more forgiving than you think you should be, and a little less stern than you think you should be.

Also take all the advice you are going to get with a healthy dose of salt.
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Definitely, eat a lot of salt. Thanks Log, I forgot that part.
 
Your life will never be the same in such a fantastic, awesome way that you will wonder how you ever got by before without him.

My only advice is truly love your son for who he is not who you may want him to be.
 
Patience, patience, patience


Oh and enjoy every second of it. It's sounds cliche but you will blink and he will be crawling all over the place.
 
They're ugly and annoying but when they get about one they get really cool.
Don't laugh when you scold him even though whatever he did was hilarious.
Change diapers fast until that black poop comes and goes.
You cant raise every child the same.
Don't gasp when he falls.
 
Just make sure he never finds that stash of My Little Pony toys that yo' momma weaned you on and that you've been keeping in your closet all these years and busting out periodically to bathe with whenever your wife isn't around, and you'll be golden.
 
franklin said:
They're ugly and annoying but when they get about one they get really cool.
Don't laugh when you scold him even though whatever he did was hilarious.
Change diapers fast until that black poop comes and goes.
You cant raise every child the same.
Don't gasp when he falls.
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Damn words of wisdom. I laugh now when my baby girl falls so that is what she does now.
 
Spend as much time with him as you can.

Also, start him on protein shakes and creatine ASAP. Lastly, throw a basketball at him several times every day. Don't worry if he can't catch it right away and gets hit in the face. He'll eventually learn and it'll toughen him up. If he simply never learns to catch the ball and doesn't fill out he can always play basketball for the U.
 
Congrats! No advice from me, except to savor the moment. It's a magical time, and they change so quickly when they are little. Babies don't do much at first except eat and poop, but things get a lot more interesting after they start interacting with you (a month or two, if I recall correctly).
 
I'll echo what others have said:
Savor it all. Even the times he ****s all over you or you suddenly remember the vomit left in your hair.
It's okay if babies cry sometimes. If you feel yourself starting to lose it, put him down and walk away. It's better for him to cry non-stop for 10 minutes than it is for you to lose your cool and hurt him. I know this sounds like common sense, but that time will come.
Don't be afraid to love on him and kiss him. Yes, he's a boy and it's still cool to do that. Tell him you love him as often as possible. That's the one thing I wish my parents and siblings did. We didn't grow up doing that and I wish we did because now it's awkward.
Something you'll find later is that no two kids are the same. You can't parent or punish them the same. Yes, the rules get to be the same, but they'll respond differently to them and the punishments should differ from child to child.
Even if your wife breast feeds, give him a bottle a week. If you don't you end up with a baby like my third. She REFUSED to take a bottle. She literally went over 24 hours without eating while we tried to get her to take one (following her doctor's recommendations). She wouldn't. That made it so my wife could never really get away. She couldn't be gone for more than a couple hours at a time so she could come home and feed her.
 
Congrats! :)

I have two other friends who also gave birth the same day. I woke up, checked Facebook, and everyone's popping out babies at the same time! Wtf? Didn't Raja Bell just have a kid too?
 
Must be plenty of testosterone flowing in Jazz Nation/Swat Lake City. Maybe we are destined to win.
 
Archie Moses said:
So, I'm a dad. My son was born yesterday at 2 pm and we will be going home from the hospital tomorrow afternoon. I would like to know from the parents out there what you wish you knew when you had your first. Any tricks, tips, and advice would be greatly appreciated.

Now that I'm a father and looking back, Trout does a great job expressing the overwhelming feeling of having a kid and loving it so deeply, but even that doesn't begin to express how incredible the experience is. Good times fellow Jazz fanz, good times.

Hehepeepeecaca
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Congrats brother, may your fatherhood be a rewarding experience.
 
The more you are affectionate, the more you hold him, the more secure, confident, and independent he will feel later in life. You can't give them too much affection.
 
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