Infidelity

[TroutBum]

Mine came home at midnight and all my **** was packed in my car. She asked what I was doing. I told her I was leaving her. When she asked why I said becasue my name wasn't Jared (guy she thought I didn't know about). She got really pale and quiet. I slept in my daughters room and was gone before she woke up.

I hope you at least had the pleasure of kicking the living **** out of Jared, or at the very least, enjoyed ruining Jared's life. (clearly you're a better man than most of us, so I hope you really didn't do this -- but I hope you thought about it REAL HARD)

It made me sad reading this. I'm sure it's not the easiest thing to talk about.

Sad? Why? If we were reading about how the spouse had slit their wrists or the kids all ended up in rehab, then maybe -- but it sure sounds like things worked out for the best. I am actually quite pleased about how positive this thread has turned out.

It's interesting how things sometimes play out. Like Shania Twain now being married to the ex-husband of the woman who Shania's ex-husband cheated with.

The fact that you know this information leads me to believe that you probably wear skinny jeans and have a rainbow tramp stamp.

It's a rough situation all around, but these things are rarely as "insta-dump" as outsiders seem to think.

Oh please, as if you've ever been in any type of situation like this... </validity>

Marriage is sacred. Those who don't respect that are not good people.

Don't be an idiot. Cheating is a major mistake and something that I detest, but don't look at it for more than it is: a mistake. Just because you make mistakes in life doesn't mean you're not a good person. I've known several cheaters in my life, and while some of them are bad people, (not just because they cheated, they're just all around douche bags) some of them continue to be positive forces in the lives of many, including their families and neighbors.

The disadvantages in divorcing:
Children have to compete with the parents new "love interests" or other children that may be inherited or created.
The children have to live two separate lives, and be in the middle of perpetual rancor.
The children resort to drugs, alcohol, sex, and other misbehaviors to get attention or get back at you for making their lives miserable.

Argh, I've spread my seed too often in the last 24, but rest assured, your neg is coming. It's frightening to me that there are real people in this society that think like you. Even worse, they get to vote, procreate, and have internet access. Truly scary.

From what you said you have a girlfriend that they have to compete with for your attention, and they are moving out of state so they live 2 different lives depending on the custody and visitation arrangement. Maybe you don't realize how difficult and painful those things are for your children.

As an advocate for kids, I think all these possible/probable effects on kids should be considered carefully. Too many parents consider their own "happiness" instead of their children's.

I may find the links for the stats later.

No you won't. And it appears that you have no intention of doing it. Shocked, really.

YOu can take your advocacy for children and piss off.


This is a much edited version and I'd advise you to keep your damn assumptions on anything related to my daughters to your god damn self.

I admire your self-editing. Having had several infractions as a result of wading into the slop with this moron, I really do admire you. It's not easy.

It is their choice.
I think parents who choose to are heroes.

Your parents had the choice to tie you up in a gunny sack full of rocks and toss you in a river. I think parents who choose to are heroes. Hindsight's a bitch, eh!

So what your saying is faithful wife < unfaithful wife= fishing boat.

Don't be ridiculous. There are TONS of factors that go into a decision like this: Does it come with a trailer, inboard or outboard, does it come with an iPilot (those things are amazing, by the way), size, storage, MPG, downriggers, etc.

 

[One Brow]

Ya, I know it's weird and all but I'm gonna say cheating on your spouse for 4 years is a negative indicator.

You're allowed to be weird.

 

[CONAN]

You're allowed to be weird.

Me and most the world I'd guess.

"Hey, Honey, I've been cheating on you for the last 4 years."
"Hmmm, not sure what that says about our marriage. It's not a positive indicator but I'm not so sure it's a negative indicator either. Let me meditate on it and I'll get back to you."

 

[PearlWatson]

Exactly. My parents should've gotten divorced earlier and presented a healthier, happier home for us.

I meant to say "Maybe you think the grass is greener on the side you didn't live." You inadvertently confirmed this.

 

[nightmare3983]

The fact that you know this information leads me to believe that you probably wear skinny jeans and have a rainbow tramp stamp.

First, I'm way too fat for skinny jeans. Second, lay off my tramp stamp!

 

[Stoked]

First, I'm way too fat for skinny jeans. Second, lay off my tramp stamp!

I'm starting to doubt your denial of not wanting Morrison's nuts...especially with a gay pride tatoo...

 

[Jazz Spazz]

I wonder if this thread was started by theblackswordsman if it would have gone an entirely different direction?

 

[Stoked]

I wonder if this thread was started by theblackswordsman if it would have gone an entirely different direction?

It would have gone a different direction if someone started in over right now. No two threads (even about the same topic) will be the same. People will word things slightly different and as a result different conclusions and mockings will be posted adn suddenly we are talking about gay guys using steriods in baseball and how congress better hold a useless, taxpayer money wasting hearing double time.

 

[DutchJazzer]

That raises a great point. I'm not going to look for evidence on this, but there seems to be a perception that women get preferential treatment in child custody cases. At least I have that perception.

better get the gay marriage resolved, so xsy can spend his time on equal rights for husbands in custody battles

 

[DutchJazzer]

I used to watch jerry springer, cus chicks would flash bewbs and vajayjay's

 

[Boondocksaint27]

I didn't read all 13 pages of this prior to posting, so this might have been stated before, but I think a major problem with infidelity is people jumping into relationships too quickly. Many of my friends dated their significant others for a short amount of time and within a period of months they were getting married. It doesn't always end in infidelity and divorce, but I don't think it helps in building a strong relationship.

I once heard somebody say: the secretary at work always looks good cause she is dolled up, but will she still love you at 4 am after an all-night bender, holding your hair out of you face so it doesn't come between you and the toilet, like your wife will? The secretary at work finds you attractive at your best, while your wife loves you at your worst

 

[nightmare3983]

I didn't read all 13 pages of this prior to posting, so this might have been stated before, but I think a major problem with infidelity is people jumping into relationships too quickly. Many of my friends dated their significant others for a short amount of time and within a period of months they were getting married. It doesn't always end in infidelity and divorce, but I don't think it helps in building a strong relationship.

I once heard somebody say: the secretary at work always looks good cause she is dolled up, but will she still love you at 4 am after an all-night bender, holding your hair out of you face so it doesn't come between you and the toilet, like your wife will? The secretary at work finds you attractive at your best, while your wife loves you at your worst

Nobody has brought this up yet. I especially like the second paragraph.

 

[kwb]

IMO, it's better for children to grow up in separate homes than in a broken one. Take it for what it's worth.

 

[Marty McFly]

He's a total ***** if he doesn't divorce her. Lots of kids go through divorce and most of the time they end up just fine. My parents divorced at age five.

 

[Saint Cy of JFC]

I used to watch jerry springer, cus chicks would flash bewbs and vajayjay's

It be cool to have a Jerry Springer Jazzfanz episode, something like "Troutbum has been sleeping with Archie Moses's Wife for the last 5 years" or "PKM has an affair with 19 year old Muslim".

 

[Deleted member 848]

It be cool to have a Jerry Springer Jazzfanz episode, something like "Troutbum has been sleeping with Archie Moses's Wife for the last 5 years" or "PKM has an affair with 19 year old Muslim".

Only that I'm still 18 (lol) for another two months.





Embarrassing, I know

 

[Scat]

Only that I'm still 18 (lol) for another two months.





Embarrassing, I know

Your idea of what's embarrassing is interesting. I'd be more concerned about the video where you attempt to rap.

 

[TroutBum]

Your idea of what's embarrassing is interesting. I'd be more concerned about the video where you attempt to rap.

The fact that he still hasn't taken it down out of pure shame says all that needs to be said.

 

[Former Member]

How have I not seen this rap video?

 

[Scat]

How have I not seen this rap video?

Ask and ye shall receive...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_LG4orRNnIc&feature=player_embedded