I don't post very often, but I have some thoughts on the matter.
#1: Beantown is quite possibly the worst spokesperson for the church I have ever seen(read). It's insulting and embarrassing and actually very entertaining.
#2: There is no way to reconcile the black priesthood ban with logic while at the same time going all in 100% on church doctrine. There is no sufficient explanation that we, as humans, could come up with.
#3: Due to #2 and other numerous doctrinal issues/follies/inconsistencies, many Mormons go inactive, many mormons just ignore, and trust that God for some inexplicable reason does these sorts of things as all part of an unknown plan for our benefit. However, many active and semi-active members have come to the conclusion that the church is not "perfect", it's leaders do not get direct and unmistakable revelation from a god, yet are, for the most part, good wise people trying to help it's members to live good lives. The church is a good organization where people can go to meet like-minded individuals trying to live a moral life and who also share a similar background. For them, the kooky, superstitious prophet-worship, can be ignored and passed over because the benefits of the good parts of church outweigh the (admittedly numerous) negatives.
I myself am Inactive currently but wouldn't mind going back to church under this sort of world view. As far as organized religion goes, the LDS church isn't a terribly bad organization.
The current stand of the LDS church on homosexuals is also hard for progressive mormons to reconcile. Many of them hope the church would change their stance on the issue, and become a more open, free thinking forum where many of the churches past issues could be discussed honestly by members at the lowest, and the highest levels.