So apparently some decision was made in the interim to harden their stance. Who knows why? Maybe because they wanted a clear issue and perhaps want to appeal it on that basis. I really doubt they would erect any memorial over the objection or protest of surviving family members.
So, when the family does not wish to have a cross memorial, and the state refuses to erect any memorial that is not a cross, the result is that some families don't get a memorial strictly based on their devotion to their religion.