JimLes
Well-Known Member
I'm trying to find a balance between being a supportive, non-judgmental friend and a realist.
I feel like I'm in the minority here, but I don't see why you need to balance things here. I'd like to think I'm a ride-or-die kinda friend, but I see your sole job in this situation as being a supportive, non-judgmental friend.
I know it's not easy to watch someone close to you do things you believe are obviously a bad idea, but I'm sure you know there's probably nothing you can say or do that will actually significantly influence her decisions. People do what they want to do. Your friend is likely not confiding in you because she excepts you to make the right decisions for you, but because she just needs someone to hear her out. Nothing good will come of you offering realism or sober truths. If you turn out to be wrong, you never had faith in your friend. If you turn out to be right, your friend will probably resent you for being right.
The actual specifics of this situation are wholly irrelevant. Your friend needs to you be there for her, and no matter the outcome, she'll likely to appreciate that in the end.