LoPo
Well-Known Member
I tell young people that marriage is a trap. I honestly can't recommend anyone get married. I've known far too many middle aged men living in crummy apartments paying 60-70% of their income to keep their ex-wife and kids in a nice middle-class home. Either the rules have to change or men should absolutely reject marriage.
I'm a happily married guy for 13 years but this post is pretty true. Unless you absolutely can't live without her, don't do it.
I think the hardest part of the whole thing is the age we live in. So many freaking distractions lead to bad thoughts. I'm not talking about porn, but just so much to do which keeps people from doing the things they need to do. Instead of going places and doing things, you watch people go places and do things on TV, social media, etc. And of course all those people seem cooler, hotter, more interesting.
This post is also true when it comes to kids. Used to be that everything was shared and the "village helped to raise the kid." Now, the village is overpriced daycare and everything is so expensive. So if it doesn't work out with the wife, **** is too expensive plus the kids will suffer with divorce. I wouldn't want life any other way, but it's freaking tough.
Moral of the story - get married if money isn't an issue. If money might be an issue, get married only if you can't live without her.