i need to vent for a minute. I'm sick and tired of ******* dads. There is a guy in my family who has two sons (that we know of) and both of them are pretty good kids. They both get good grades, they both have good jobs, they both have good girlfriends, go to church, are respectful, and are all-around great people to be around. The mom is nowhere in the picture, so it's all up to the dad to figure things out. Well, he sucks at it. He is a FREAK about church stuff, you know, love thy neighbor, forgiveness, respectful worship, family is everything, etc., but you'd never know it by the way he treats ONE of his sons. It reminds me a lot of Denethor from Tolkien's Lord of the Rings, now that I think about it. One son walks on water, can do no wrong, and receives insane amounts of praise. The other son, even though he does ALL of the same things as his brother, (grades, church, life, etc) gets the shaft from his dad. It doesn't matter what he does, he is always wrong. It doesn't matter how much good the kid tries to do, the dad is always there to tell him that he's inferrior to his brother. It doesn't matter how hard he tries to impress, he always fails in his father's eyes. It's sad and total ********. So about three weeks ago, the BAD son was in the wrong place, at the wrong time, with some other kids he probably shouldn't have been with, and some **** went down. I'm not getting into specifics, but it ended up being pretty bad.
Here's the rub: BAD kid is claiming he didn't do anything wrong and that he was actually there trying to FIX the problem before it escalated to the fiasco it eventually led to. Remember, this kid is a solid citizen and as far as anyone knows, he's never been in a lick of trouble, always been a good kid, never lied, etc., and yet, his dad automatically assumes the kid is lying and has laid down the family hammer. The kid is only 17, but his dad threw him out of the house and flat out told him to his face that he's never welcome in his house again. He even went as far as telling the kid that either he legally change his name to something else, or he'd get a lawyer to do it. I wish I was making this up.
What you don't know is that the issue the BAD kid got himself into isn't even a crime. He wasn't arrested, he didn't go to jail, nobody was hurt, no property was damaged. Yet, here is Mr. High and Mighty, Mr. Families Are Forever, Mr. Forgiveness, tossing the kid out on his ***, with what, in my opinion, is no reason, pretty much destroying any hope of this kid having a future. To top it off, the dad is talking to EVERYONE, smearing this kids name thru the mud. I swear, you'd think they were bitter rivals from some long lost war -- it really is crazy. About two thirds of my family are backing up the dad, saying that what BAD kid did was indefensible and that he's lying about it. It makes me angry beyond words.
So, that's my rant. What do you guys think? Regardless of what this kid did, also assuming he may be totally innocent, is the dad justified in saying those things and acting like that? What would it take for you to snap and treat your son or daughter like that? I'm genuinely curious at your responses, because I think I'm in the minority here when I say, there is nothing short of murder or rape that would make me disown a child?
Are you an ******* dad?
Here's the rub: BAD kid is claiming he didn't do anything wrong and that he was actually there trying to FIX the problem before it escalated to the fiasco it eventually led to. Remember, this kid is a solid citizen and as far as anyone knows, he's never been in a lick of trouble, always been a good kid, never lied, etc., and yet, his dad automatically assumes the kid is lying and has laid down the family hammer. The kid is only 17, but his dad threw him out of the house and flat out told him to his face that he's never welcome in his house again. He even went as far as telling the kid that either he legally change his name to something else, or he'd get a lawyer to do it. I wish I was making this up.
What you don't know is that the issue the BAD kid got himself into isn't even a crime. He wasn't arrested, he didn't go to jail, nobody was hurt, no property was damaged. Yet, here is Mr. High and Mighty, Mr. Families Are Forever, Mr. Forgiveness, tossing the kid out on his ***, with what, in my opinion, is no reason, pretty much destroying any hope of this kid having a future. To top it off, the dad is talking to EVERYONE, smearing this kids name thru the mud. I swear, you'd think they were bitter rivals from some long lost war -- it really is crazy. About two thirds of my family are backing up the dad, saying that what BAD kid did was indefensible and that he's lying about it. It makes me angry beyond words.
So, that's my rant. What do you guys think? Regardless of what this kid did, also assuming he may be totally innocent, is the dad justified in saying those things and acting like that? What would it take for you to snap and treat your son or daughter like that? I'm genuinely curious at your responses, because I think I'm in the minority here when I say, there is nothing short of murder or rape that would make me disown a child?
Are you an ******* dad?
