Need legal counsel/advice.

[DutchJazzer]

The State is unwilling to let any potential responsible male off the hook for child support. I doubt even a document attesting paternity at the hospital will outweigh the State interest, so I believe Dutch is right after all. It might be difficult, on the same premise, to remove the legal husband from the list of potential financial responsibility even for a child born within some months after the divorce is final.

I worked in a paternity testing lab once for a while, but I was doing research on antigens, and I didn't pay much attention. The girls at the front desk, and the girls who did the paternity tests, sometimes gossiped about how many potential fathers some babies had. The State wouldn't let up on any of them as long as it couldn't be absolutely ruled out.

Here is a bit from Wikipedia on the point:



https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paternity_(law)

ofcourse i am right because unlike the liberal media and the lbgtqrstuvwxyz+ lobby would like you to belive mariage is for procration and kids are central
but people nowadays are too stupid to realise what mariage is for and why it is forever.
**** the left and LBGTQ, before you try and inslut me by calling me a bigot. I AM A BIGOT AND PROUD OF IT!

 

[♪alt13]

Working on getting my 5 yo daughter biological dad to sign her over. He hasn't done it yet out of principle. He's a crap dad. We are letting his back child support add up then we'll tell him we won't pursue it if he will sign her over. Its a process.

I think that sounds pretty horrible of you unless the dude is abusive. My little bro has a crap dad and was basically adopted(not legally but in every other sense) by my father even though my parents were divorced. My dad coached his sports teams, was there for him for every birthday, and my brother(now an adult) still calls him dad. Still when his father did come around it was important to him. He has accepted his birth father for what he is and is thankful for knowing some of his other family members. He came to a decision about his father on his own terms. He would have resented my mother if she would have forced that on him. Again, short of abuse I don't think people should leverage the courts to force a parent out of a childs life.

 

[Beantown]

Why watch Maury Povich when you can read Jazzfanz? But I do applaud you men for being able to take on that level of drama. Life is stressful enough to be adding baby mommas, dead beat exes, and child support. I have to tip my hat to religous upbringing to giving me a boring life. A virgin who married a virgin and now we have two girls, a dog and a mortgage. Drama consists of our weekend plans and staying on a monthly budget.

 

[RandyForRubio]

Why watch Maury Povich when you can read Jazzfanz? But I do applaud you men for being able to take on that level of drama. Life is stressful enough to be adding baby mommas, dead beat exes, and child support. I have to tip my hat to religous upbringing to giving me a boring life. A virgin who married a virgin and now we have two girls, a dog and a mortgage. Drama consists of our weekend plans and staying on a monthly budget.

And I thought I acted like I was better than people...

 

[Beantown]

And I thought I acted like I was better than people...

Not saying I'm better. A good portion of the population would find my life unattractive and boring. I myself like less drama so I'm perfectly happy with my path.

 

[Stoked]

I think that sounds pretty horrible of you unless the dude is abusive. My little bro has a crap dad and was basically adopted(not legally but in every other sense) by my father even though my parents were divorced. My dad coached his sports teams, was there for him for every birthday, and my brother(now an adult) still calls him dad. Still when his father did come around it was important to him. He has accepted his birth father for what he is and is thankful for knowing some of his other family members. He came to a decision about his father on his own terms. He would have resented my mother if she would have forced that on him. Again, short of abuse I don't think people should leverage the courts to force a parent out of a childs life.

You cannot take an absolute stand like that. In some cases it is by far what's best for the child and in some cases it isn't.

In my case I was far, far, far better off without my original adoptive dad. But my 13 year old, as much as this sticks in my craw, would be worse off without her biological dad in her life.

 

[Joe Bagadonuts]

Why watch Maury Povich when you can read Jazzfanz? But I do applaud you men for being able to take on that level of drama. Life is stressful enough to be adding baby mommas, dead beat exes, and child support. I have to tip my hat to religous upbringing to giving me a boring life. A virgin who married a virgin and now we have two girls, a dog and a mortgage. Drama consists of our weekend plans and staying on a monthly budget.

My life was once very similar to yours, and then it was all blown up. The repercussions have been enormous for my daughter's and for me, but the courts consistently give my ex the tools to complicate our relationships because she is considered to be my children's primary custodian.

When I go to my former house (where my name is still on the mortgage) and I am treated like a second class citizen by my former wife and my former neighbor I sometimes want to cry. We had so much going for our family and it all got thrown away. In retrospect there is not a thing I could do to save it. Believe me, I tried everything.

In other words, be thankful for the peace in your life. Don't mock those who are facing complications. You could find yourself in their shoes one day. It would be easier for this to happen than you can ever imagine, and you might have the unpleasant experience of discovering that there is nothing at all you can do to prevent it.

 

[Beer]

I think that sounds pretty horrible of you unless the dude is abusive. My little bro has a crap dad and was basically adopted(not legally but in every other sense) by my father even though my parents were divorced. My dad coached his sports teams, was there for him for every birthday, and my brother(now an adult) still calls him dad. Still when his father did come around it was important to him. He has accepted his birth father for what he is and is thankful for knowing some of his other family members. He came to a decision about his father on his own terms. He would have resented my mother if she would have forced that on him. Again, short of abuse I don't think people should leverage the courts to force a parent out of a childs life.

Well he,s not there for her, unless he has a family function he wants to take her to to try and show he's a good dad. He doesn't care about seeing her, he doesn't care about helping provide for her, he throws a bitch fit anytime we spend money on her and he's expected to pay for half (stuff like school, dr's appts, er visits, etc ... which he doesn't pay regardless). We aren't forcing anything. He's not around unless it is 100% convenient for him. When he does show up he is hours late and I am the one that gets to sit with a sad little girl on the porch waiting for her pos "dad" to show up on his own time. He hasn't seen her in 3 months and she has been more than fine with it. The less she sees him the happier she is. **** him. He'll sign her over when the financials make sense, thats how great of a dad he is.

 

[Beer]

Why watch Maury Povich when you can read Jazzfanz? But I do applaud you men for being able to take on that level of drama. Life is stressful enough to be adding baby mommas, dead beat exes, and child support. I have to tip my hat to religous upbringing to giving me a boring life. A virgin who married a virgin and now we have two girls, a dog and a mortgage. Drama consists of our weekend plans and staying on a monthly budget.

Wait till your wife gets bored and your life gets really complicated.

 

[Stoked]

Bean many of those with drama filled lives started out just like you. My ex was my first and now look at my life.

2nd wife and 5 kids (only 3 are mine biolgocally).

But so what? It is exciting and fun.

 

[Miggs]

Not saying I'm better. A good portion of the population would find my life unattractive and boring. I myself like less drama so I'm perfectly happy with my path.

Drama is about as poor a choice a word as you could've chosen.

 

[Miggs]

My life was once very similar to yours, and then it was all blown up. The repercussions have been enormous for my daughter's and for me, but the courts consistently give my ex the tools to complicate our relationships because she is considered to be my children's primary custodian.

When I go to my former house (where my name is still on the mortgage) and I am treated like a second class citizen by my former wife and my former neighbor I sometimes want to cry. We had so much going for our family and it all got thrown away. In retrospect there is not a thing I could do to save it. Believe me, I tried everything.

In other words, be thankful for the peace in your life. Don't mock those who are facing complications. You could find yourself in their shoes one day. It would be easier for this to happen than you can ever imagine, and you might have the unpleasant experience of discovering that there is nothing at all you can do to prevent it.

We all know Beantown's a clown but I honestly don't think he meant anything negative by his comments. He was genuinely commending people here for their selflessness and responsibility all in the name of love.

He chose a bad word in drama is all.