So I was recently laid off so I am on the job hunt again (I have been through a restructuring or layoff of some kind 5 times now in my career...**** me), and it is shocking to me the lack of common courtesy among hiring people (hiring managers, recruiters, etc.). I had a full round of interviews, had 2 on-site interviews, and was told I was one of 2 finalists for a role and the next step would be interview with Senior VP or COO. Then....nothing. No call, no email, nothing, and every email I sent or call I made went unanswered. Not even a simple form letter letting me know I am no longer in the running or whatever. Well **** them all, that is just ********. Grow a pair and call people and ****ing let them KNOW if they are being considered or not, especially when it gets that far along. This happens so much it is pathetic.
I agree that they should at least contact you. However, if you have made it that far, they don't want to tell you they like someone else better until that person is signed, sealed, and delivered. That you are the second choice doesn't mean you are out of the running. So, I can understand the reluctance to burn a bridge (unless your foe is on it, of course).