Seriously? I had the impression you at least had LDS roots, but you have no idea how LDS families work. . . or don't work, to be more precise.
Lessee. . . . .
So there's this tribe in deepest darkest AmazoniaCongoland that can only be discovered by crawling into a certain cave in the Australian Outback, coming out on an unknown island no one has discovered yet in the hollow earth under the Antarctic Icecap, where you have to crawl outta the cave and jump down into what looks like a freakin' volcano. . . .into the jungle of all jungles, where the tribe of Mormons can be found existing in their natural habitat, a sort of irrigated Hell, if you will. . . .
MormonDad goes to the Wardcouncil while MormonMom goes the WardquiltingBee, a sort of His/hers clearinghouse of social acceptability. They have to talk about their kids, in connection with comparatives from all the other wardDads and wardMoms, and the main criteria of acceptability is a pious submissive demeanor while properly attired on Sunday mornings. It might LOOK live two kids are each doing all the right things, smiling properly at all the Right People, but you hafta be there, and hear the gossip, to get the significant clues as to what really lies deep in the hearts of MormonKid and SatanKid. Piranhas feeding on hunks of raw meat are more "Christian" than these status exchanges in Mormonland.
But it doesn't matter.
Trout, Don't make the mistake of assuming there is justice, or good sense, in this world. Just do what needs doing when you see something you care about. I can bear you my personal testimony that you can buck the Mormon tribe and just not give a crap, and say what you think you must. It's like the price early Christians paid for saying they worshipped Jesus, sure you get helped right out to a new world and new life, but it's a better life. There's a bigger tribe just around the bend of the river that'll take you right in, comprised by the UGLI millions who have done just that.
Right here on Knowitall Mountain, I can see the problem. It looks like what happens when a cow births twins. They are both perfectly good calves, but the second one always totally displaces the first one because it's smells are the latest smells to bind to the Mom's receptors, and forever that calf will smell like "hers" while the other one just has to be bottle-fed.
I have twins myself, and momma rejected the firstborn from day one and bonded with the other. Anyway, I have bottle-fed a lot of rejected calves, and I bottle-fed my twins, too.